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*agic_3
writes:My best friend is starting to ditch me because I'm with my boyfriend too much at school instead of how it used to be with just me and her.. I don't want her to feel forgotten but I also want to be with him and have been with him for a long time. How do I keep both of them and make them both feel loved and needed?? Please help!
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (9 April 2011):
 Well, you can find out more accurately if you feel he is controlling you by going off this checklist of things.Does your partner…____ Embarrass or make fun of you in front of your friends or family?____ Put down your accomplishments or goals?____ Make you feel like you are unable to make decisions?____ Use intimidation or threats to gain compliance?____ Tell you that you are nothing without them?____ Treat you roughly - grab, push, pinch, shove or hit you?____ Call, text, or email you several times a day or show up to make sure you are where you said you would be?____ Use drugs or alcohol as an excuse for saying hurtful things or abusing you?____ Blame you for how they feel or act?____ Pressure you sexually for things you don't want to do?____ Make you feel like there "is no way out" of the relationship?____ Prevent you from doing things you want - like spending time with your friends or family?____ Try to keep you from leaving after a fight or leave you somewhere after a fight to "teach you a lesson"?Do you…____ Sometimes feel scared of how your partner will act?____ Constantly make excuses to other people for your partner's behavior?____ Believe that you can help your partner change if only you changed something about yourself?____ Try not to do anything that would cause conflict or make your partner angry?____ Always do what your partner wants you to do instead of what you want?____ Stay with your partner because you are afraid of what your partner would do if you broke-up?
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reader, Magic_3 +, writes (9 April 2011):
Magic_3 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't know whether or not I would say he controls me because to me it does often feel like he is trying to keep me away from my friends. But my friends try to keep me away from him.. I hate that they get me stuck in the middle and want me to choose between them
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reader, BriBri +, writes (8 April 2011):
I have been threw the same thing before.The thing i did was be fair and spend sometime with your boyfriend and spend sometime with your friend.And try and let your friend and Boyfriend be friends to it helps.Hope i helped!!:))
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reader, Red HaT Ninja  +, writes (8 April 2011):
 Hi, i understand that you want to make them both happy and to feel wanted,but what about you stuck in the middle.Speak to them and explain they are both important to you,but that from now on they have to be aware of your feelings too.tell them it's not fair on you and that your only trying to spend time with the two most important people in your life.That should work,get them to address their own childish behaviour,and if they want to remain in your life then they need to work it out.If they do then you have two people who cares for you,if not, do you really need them in your life.hope this helpsxx
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (8 April 2011):
Normally, the best friend does not react that way unless they feel that the boyfriend, in this case, is forcing you away from your friends, etc.
Is there any signs that he is controlling you?
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