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writes:I love her, I go to class with her, work with her, and also hang out with her at least 4 days out of a week. But I don't think she reciprocates the feelings. The problem is that whenever I talk to her or look into her eyes, all rational thought is cast aside and I am made to act like a fool.It's not her fault, she's amicable, sweet, and nice. Maybe that's why I can't get over her. How do I make myself realize that nothing will ever happen between me and this girl of my dreams? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008): hiya, well you thing is here the easiest way to get over someone is to do other thigns with other people but it will be harder if you are in the same class together and hang out. This is the problem i have at the moment with a guy in my class which is why i can't seem to move on. Sometimes i really don't think he likes me back because of little things but then again he alwasy stares at me and stuff and he's generally a nice lad which is why i'm still holding on to the hope he likes me. So how do you know she doesn't like you? have you been told? have you even asked? i know it isn't the easiest thing to do but girls never seem to make the first move, me being one i'd know and also have you ever thought if she's noticed that you seem to like her she could like you back but just be extremely shy? Try to get to know her better and then you'll be able to find out more and also make lots of eye contact and see if she looks at you back, even if she doesn't hold it an look out for her glancing at you. Otherwise just see her as a friend but i don't think you will be able to do that unless you really find out she doesn't like you back preferablly from her, she wouldn't admit it to others. but try to talk to her you never know what could happen it will make the whole process easier knowing whether it will rather than wondring. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008): You should realize that when you spend that kind of time and effort on her, you're not only not doing yourself any favors, you may be literally helping other guys get with her more easily.
You're probably fulfilling a lot of emotional needs that now she doesn't have to demand from the guys that actually get into her pants all the time.
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reader, Artistry +, writes (28 April 2008):
 Hi, The best thing you could probably do for yourself, is to wean yourself away from her. You need to be missed, first of all, she will never realize if she cares for you or not, as long as she sees you almost all of the time, and you basically gush all over, when you look at her. You need to take control, and one way to do that, as painful as it may be, is to back off, as much as you can. If she does not start to look for you, and seek you out, because you are no longer there all the time, which made her take you for granted, then you need to completely move on. Your valuable time is being wasted and you will wind up being hurt much more, when she finds someone that she might fall in love with. Test the withdrawal period, and if she shows no increased interest, find another person who cares for you, you deserve mutual admiration, it's not in this relationship, at least not as mich as you desire. Good luck to you in the future.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (28 April 2008):
 The eyes are the window into her soul.
Peek inside and see if your name or somebody's is written there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008): You know what you feel the same way i felt about this guy i used to work with, i fell in love with him unexpectedly but i finally realize that nothing is ever gonna happen between us so i'm moving on and maybe one day he'll realize what he let slip away and so will this young lady so keep ya head up and move on with your life. Never put your dreams and life onhold for anyone. Good luck.
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