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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I think we both know it's over but I'm being just so nasty and I can't seem to stop being so angry and mean. I can't afford to leave right away and he was kind enough to let me stay until I get myself financially sorted out. But I'm not even expressing myself as grateful. I should have broken up earlier there's such a thing as staying too long and I'm resentful even though it was my choice to stay. I want us still to be friends at some point in the future but I'm being so terrible I'm burning every piece of this bridge and I need to stop being so destructive. Please help me be kind(er) in my last days because I don't have a lot left in me and I know he deserves it. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2014): Your resentment and hostility comes from pain. Your ego is damaged from rejection; so you don't feel like being nice right now. Hold your tongue, and count away your temper.
Take deep breaths and splash your face with cold water.
You're a little crowded with your emotions, that's all.
You don't have to be friends. Don't behave like you're a bratty little girl having a tantrum. You're a grown woman. Have some dignity and self-respect. You'd feel a lot better if you behaved, and left with your head held high.
Gratitude is still in order; because he could have kicked you to the curb a while back. Leaving on the worst of terms will cancel any possibility of friendship; once you get over your pain of the breakup, and you're thinking straight.
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