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writes: i really need help on this one if any one can help, my relationship kind of depends on it. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for awhile and we have only had sex a few times but he doesnt seem pleased. i dont know if my vagina is too big for him or if his penis is too small for me. I have orgasm and so does he, but he also says that he does not hit the walls of my vagina. I was wondering if any one could tell me how to make my vagina fell tighter and better at the same time as getting pleasured myself?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2012): exercise your vagina. practice every chance you get by tightning the muscles inside, you have to feel it tight inside yourself when you tighten it. by the sounds of it, you have had a lot of sex before and your vagina got big, in that case, maybe only surgery to tighten will do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2011): Vaginal tightness is subjective. What is tight to one man many not be tight to another. A small penis may be totally unacceptable to one woman and fine for another...
I did not have sex for a few years due to an illness and when I resumed making love my new lover was small, about 4.75 inches and to my surprise he loves what he calls my 'tight stuff'.
I never knew I was tight before? Though I'd never been told I was loose, yet for a man with a smaller than average penis to say it's tight, so I was like well OK! But I also think it has alot to do with doing Kegals and positioning during sex. We are older and a bit big in the stomach so our positioning is usually has my legs way up, with him straddling me rather than laying upon me. I think that makes my vagina seems tighter. And the the rear entry version too.
But he says my vagina feels tight to his touch when he puts his fingers in. I clench sometimes when we are making love to add to his pleasure. And this can be done no matter what your size is. Some men are just into comparing every woman down to the everything they preferred in another. Crazy. If it's his problem you best move on. It will not get better. On the other hand if I did that to my man, he'd fall short literally, being smaller. I don't. I love and care for him for other things and still find his penetration moving and good to me.
Sex is about the 'organs' but it also about other things that bing and other ways to achieve ultimate pleasure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): i bathe n vinegar!
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reader, angie.e  +, writes (5 December 2010):
kegel exercise is useful for a tightier vaginal muscle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010): Hi there hun please dont even listen to this jerk, there is NOTHING wrong with you! He's obviously insecure with his small package that he makes up for it by playing mind tricks making the woman think theres something wrong with her. You deserve a man that's going to love you and yours. Get rid of him and get a real man in that bed with you ;)
I'd say if you're going to be tightening your vaginal muscles do it for yourself not for someone else. Good luck hun. And the exercises that the other women posted are good ones I hear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010): I am a dude.... Wanted to see if women even attempt to increase sexual perfomance.... It appears they do too.... I think that if youre having trouble in the bedroom(whether you're too loose, or he's too small) the best thing to do for your relationship is talk about it with each other. Then explore your options. I looked for things i could do that didnt involve pills and such. I found lots of free info on excercises and things i could do to better please the lady... And i was pleased more too. If you talk with your partner and work together im sure the sex will be EXTRAODINARY! So dont do work on it by yourself... Tell your man to work aswell. Hope this was helpful. Also, info on this subject should be free.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2010): Tried to post my answer earlier but it didn't show up. I too got the vagina bible from www.vaginabible.com like the reader below says, teaches you everything you need to know about getting tighter and a lot more like how to milk your man. good luck girls!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2010): I have the same problem, but I have done a lot of research, the best advice you can download off the web is the vagina bible for less than $10.00. It teaches everything to strengthen your muscles,it even teaches you how to milk his penis, which is the utlimate for both of you. and it will help a lot I also am using the kegal master, you can add springs to get it stronger little by little it takes approx. 1-8 weeks you can practice on your partner too. I have had good results so far but I still have a long way to go myself. I have never had any other partner than my husband. He has had some previous partners, one or more must have left a lasting impression, they must have been pretty good, it made me upset and I cried a lot but now I am determined to do something about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2010): the best thing to do is do your pelvic floor exercise when he is inside you and hold it for as long as possible all through intercourse
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reader, Eliyas  +, writes (13 April 2010):
I will
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2010): These women are right in the fact that kegel exercises are the best and natural way to tighten your vagina. They are the safest way to tighten your vagina without using any type of medical operations or lubricates. As they have already stated it will take up to 8-10 weeks for the exercises to start to kick in as i would for any muscle you are trying to tighten and tone. If you are still not pleased surfing the internet is a great way to learn different ways to tighten that crotch! I wish you the best of luck and hope you get the results you are looking for.
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reader, tpf5023 +, writes (30 March 2010):
Kegels do take time, but they are the safest and most effective way! Plus there are tons of other exercises you can do, believe me... I've been there. I have had two kids in the past 6 years, and I've been doing kegel exercises as part of a daily routine. I can safely say I'm happy with my lady parts and my husband sure is too.
I found so many tips and secrets that you could never find just surfing the web and they're all compiled into this one book. It also has a bunch of exercises and even sex tips for foreplay, oral, prostate orgasms. It's pretty much the ultimate guide to a tighter vagina AND great sex, and it's dirt cheap. If you want to check it out, or just read more info about this stuff you can click this link:
http://1774apqb9xbz3ner4thqsp5w6n.hop.clickbank.net/?tid=AGAN2
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2010): Kegels take some time before you feel a result. I heard that there's some kind of surgery that can be done. But even better than that I discovered this website that sells a powder that you douche with that pulls your tissues inward in about an hour. I tried it myself, and I was much tighter. Here's a link to the site www.virginalonline.com. Try it out, you will not be sorry!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2010): You need to do Kegel exercises. The best was is to stop your pee for 4seconds when you are urinating. So you stop your pee for 4seconds by squeezing your vagina muscles then release and continue to pee, then repeat this until you're done peeing. Do this every time you have to pee.
Also try to Stop having sex for 1month, the muscles will get tighter (because it wouldn't be stretching.)
Also try douching with warm water & vinegar.
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reader, sobia  +, writes (17 March 2010):
Women who have given birth are told to do pelvic floor exercises,which tighten the vagina muscles.What you do is squeeze your muscles down the vagina region for a count of 10 then release.The beauty of this,is you can do it anywhere,at the bus stop,the supermarket at work,no one has to know.Do that as much as you can and i guarantee,your vagina muscles will be alot tighter.Another thing is your boyfriend might not be hard enough when you begin intercourse,more foreplay might be needed and try different sexual positions,where you get better penetration.Sex books are good to read and give you excellent advice,good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010): Well,the best thing to do is to buy a kegel master and use it to tighten your muscles. You will see result after one use. Well,let me rephrase that, he will feel the results, because he will tell you.
This will not only tighten you up, but will give you control over your vagina in the best way imaginable.
It will allow you to grip his penis and he will love it. YOu can also flutter your vagina like the wings of a butterfly and make him orgasm. It will pull/encourage his cumm and he will never forget you as long as he lives. The move is called the Indian Butterfly.
Trust me my husband begs me to do this to him and he says I am the best sex he's ever had.
It will make you a sex goddess.
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reader, momo22 +, writes (3 March 2010):
honestly.. this is all i do and it does work.. squeeze your butt cheeks together as hard as you can.. try not to use your thigh muscles (but in the beginning its ok, just like with excercise you work yourself up). you can do this in bed in the tub anywhere you feel comfortable.. i know it may sound weird but ha.. it works. =D
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reader, tpf5023 +, writes (21 December 2009):
Exercising is the SAFEST and EASIEST answer!
Forget surgery and "magic" pills. The only way you're going to get your vagina tighter safely and cost efficiently is with exercise. It is just like any other muscle in the body, in the sense that you need to work at it to get it to perform better. Chances are it is not your man because you would know if his penis was too short. It would have to look and feel exceptionally small.
Get yourself a book, e-book, whatever from a professional with real kegel routines to work out your PC muscle and then you can increase your workouts and continue tightening and strengthening your vagina.
If you want you can check out this site to help you:
http://a620eo429w6-fl8r4wgu4vd-5h.hop.clickbank.net/?tid=WK1
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2009): Well if he's not hitting your wall then it's not you sweetie it's him.... He may be a little too short for you :-(
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2009): The kegel exercise
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2009): Erm, I hate to break it to you honey but your vagina may be normal size, but his previous sexual partners could have been tighter. Or he could just be insecure about his own size. Either way, a Vagina tightening cream and kegelmaster2000 and even a julian senso penis sleeve will solve all of your problems with your husband. He will feel bigger to you, as if he has a really big penis, and you will feel nice and tight to him, like a virgin. Sex should be left for marriage so there are no insecurites that the other half has to feel, and if you are looser, or he is smaller than he wanted to be, the solutions I gave are still the right solutions. Sex is more beautiful if you save your beauty for your life partner and don't let another man or woman ever witness such beauty that you possess, by showing others your beauty, you are devaluing it and taking the beauty away from your body and giving it for a cheap lustful cause only with silly, false beliefs on love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009): Avoid washing with warm water. And avoid too much wetting it during the same action
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reader, VirginMaster  +, writes (20 August 2009):
 Well, i have just the thing. I work for a company that invented and markets an all-natural product to make your vagins very, very tight. feel free to email me if you're interested.
trust me it works, my fiance and i use it all the time. it feels fantastic.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2009): Girrrlll trust me you dnt have to worry about nothin .... Personally I neva had that prolem but from experience I know that men will say anything to get you down when they are insecure about themselves. If you are still apprehensive about your tightness try the other suggestions posted but personally I feel that ur perfectly fine and normal by all definitions of the word.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2009): Women come in all shapes and sizes, so do Men. It maybe that for him, you are bigger. That doesn't mean you're necessarily stretched out/loose (from multiple childbirth/weak muscles) it could just mean he isn't big enough for you. Men can do exercises to make themselves bigger too, but it's harder and takes longer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2009): I think that there is nothing wrong with you he is just trying to make you feel bad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): when we were first married, and my husband was having a lot of ed problems (now I realize it was due to nervousness), my husband told me that my vagina does not "grip" him. oh no, he didn't!!!!!!! I wanted to cry, then I thought about it after, and the truth is that it was a defense for his not being able to get it up all the way. this is one way men can manipulate women, because we are so damn insecure about stupid things like this. later on, I gently told him..."if you aren't feeling it, it's because your penis is not hard enough." ha. he shut the heaven up. so do the kegals if you want, but it can not be too bad. hey, I also asked my gyno doctor what she thought about my vagina size, and she said it was normal.
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reader, peace1  +, writes (7 January 2009):
dear women use coal water every day to wash your vagina went going to bath it help a lot to make vagina tighter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): Don't Listen To Him!His D*ck Is Too Small If He's Complaining, Besides If Ya'll Both Had An Orgasm N He's Still Not Satisfied Than He's Feelin Insecure Bout Himself. Love Urself For Who U R! My Fiancee Has Told Me I Was Loose A Couple Of Times But That's Cuz I Masturbated B4 He Came Over N I Like It Rough. But Otherwise I'm Pretty Small N He's Far From Small.
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reader, chummy  +, writes (7 September 2007):
there are machines you can buy to do the exercise for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2007): Hii had the same problem then i started holding on to my wee and releasing it several time when i go to the toilet and it worked also i bought some product which i now sell that makes you really tight and it is safe, it also helps with thrush and things like that, you can use as much as possible as it it all herbs and the effect last for about a week, then use again. thanks.
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reader, TyRhonda +, writes (8 August 2007):
Well I have used the vaginal tightening cream from Adam and Eve and that works. Its in a blue bottle and it costs about $15 for 2 ounces. You put it on about 3-5 min before sex and it makes you very hot and it also tightens you up. I've also tried the vinegar and water and it worked most of the time but the last time it actually made me kinda looser. I advise you call Adam and Eve at 1-800-365-ADAM and order that cream.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2007): ok this sounds funny I know but I was told vinger/water. You 50/50 the two can get s bottle and pour it inside you.I never done it kind of scared to b-cuz it might hurt or burn but thats what i was told.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2007): why don't you go to a sex shop and buy liquid virgin you can go to sex novelties and they tell you all the cream they have they work so good he think you are a virgin e-mail me and let me know did this help
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2006): Try kegal exercises. If you aren't familiar, search it online. It's excercising the muscles in your vagina, and yes, makes it tighter. It will also enhance your sexual stimulation. You can even practice when he's in you. He'll like it too.
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reader, lorel +, writes (22 December 2005):
Hi, Dont believe him for a minute. Ive had 4 kids and mine is still very tight. He is just trying to hurt you..Best wishes..
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reader, Virginiaac +, writes (22 December 2005):
This is such an old chestnut that men use against so many women, please don't fall for it. Firstly, there is nothing wrong with you! You are not TOO BIG! You say you do have an orgasm and so does he. So what is the problem? Kick him out of bed, get a man who really appreciates you OR tell your boyfriend that he should learn to be a better lover in bed to get you back into his! Good luck!
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reader, shania +, writes (22 December 2005):
 Women who have given birth are told to do pelvic floor exercises,which tighten the vagina muscles.What you do is squeeze your muscles down the vagina region for a count of 10 then release.The beauty of this,is you can do it anywhere,at the bus stop,the supermarket at work,no one has to know.Do that as much as you can and i guarantee,your vagina muscles will be alot tighter.Another thing is your boyfriend might not be hard enough when you begin intercourse,more foreplay might be needed and try different sexual positions,where you get better penetration.Sex books are good to read and give you excellent advice,good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2005): Hi kittykat, there are certain exercises that allow one to contract the muscles there. i will tell u one of them here. when u go to the bathroom to urinate do it slowly, then hold it up and slowly again until u finish. dont just rush all out.this relaxes your muscles around that area and contracts them in.
Also when u do have intercourse with your boyfriend try to contract and release your virgina wall around his penis. The above should help u with how this is done. This requires practise and with time u will be able to contractthe muscles there.
I hope this helps a little. Have fun.
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