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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I'm a teenage girl who was used by a smooth talking guitar playing jerk for sex. He said he loved me and somehow got past my thick protective walls because I've been so hurt and broken so many times before by men I trusted. Now I'm hurting again. How do i get over it and how do I ever trust a guy again? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010): Dear girl, first of all, you need to stop thinking that every men you meet are guys that will use you for something. And you need to have instinct, i dont how i do but i think it is my instinct that i can tell if a guy just wants sex or really likes me, you need to orientate yourself and see what are their moves. e.g if guys like that one you mentioned started to say i love you, and you´re the girl of my life or you are so gorgeaus and things like that, it definitely wants just sex and the next day he wont even recognize you. Trust me i´ve been througt that.Anyway if a guy says that likes you and stays and talks with you almost every day, there he likes you really, because if he wanted sex e had already fliped out or gone away. Either way if a guy like the one you talked about starts telling you those things, please and dont forget this do not give him hopes or that you are liking what he is saying. If you give hopes he will know that you´re ready for action. I believe that you can trust a guy again, because those hurtfull feelings and your passed experiences will help you in the future and they will help you in many situations on the love side and making good choices. And you´re young, the fact that you bentrought that so young will make you an amazing woman in the future.
With love, a girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010): You'll get over it in time and stay away from musicians. They're just trouble at your age, while they're not all jerks, even the nice ones can afford to be because women are suckers for guys who play in a band.
You will trust guys again once you're over this one, just make sure you make the next guy work for it, instead of falling for smooth talk.
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