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writes:I love him so much, but 9 months now and he knows he has me. he doesnt chase me anymore which makes me mad cause he just gives me this blah attitude. i wanna see him yet he takes forever for that. how do i make him realize he still needs to earn my love without him getting mad at me or think im cheating or something? help me please? he loves me alot he does but hes just doing the typical guy thing... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): It's not a typical guy thing. Believe it or not, this time you have to take partial blame. We start to get comfortable with relationships, then we begin letting our partner slide, thinking it's temporary, or their day wasn't great. But when you let someone slide too often, that becomes their new behavior in the relationship. Now truthfully, how many times do you get off the sofa to change the channel by hand, when the remote is sitting right next to you. Exactly, if we have it easy, we tend not to look for more difficult ways to get something done. You've let your relationship get soft with the chasing. You need to re-negotiate the boundaries of your relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007): But he does love you! He is just doing the exact same thing with you :D he wants to be with you but he is shy so he uses a method of atraction. Remember the forbidden is most exciting ;) I suggest that you do the first move here. Earning anotherslove counts for both parts. Remember that.From: The li'l helper.
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reader, sexi  +, writes (4 September 2007):
 Speak to him and let him know that you dont like his easy going attitude.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007): Yes that seems to be the typical guy behaviour... there are so many posts on this website on the same topic, even I have asked the same question and the general consesus seems to be: keep busy, don't always be available, so that he still gets to feel 'the chase' a bit. I am trying it's hard because if you are in love it should be 2 ways but somewhere along the way they just really seem to turn off the attention from what it was at the beginning. I guess it helps to know that many other girls are in the same situation... does this make it normal? I don't know? There are guys out there that dote on their girlfriends ALL the time - I have friends like this so maybe there are just different types of guys? Maybe take a few steps back and see if he starts chasing after you again. I have learnt that by telling him to give you more attention like before he feels pressured and it may push him away so you are going to have to do it in a subtle way. Make loads of plans with your friends etc and when he calls say 'i'm so sorry hon of course i would love to see you but it will have to wait until thursday... so busy.. why don't you plan something fun for us to do?' and then it will be something to look forward to and he will aprreciate seeing you. Good Luck xx
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