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writes:hi i am a 13 year old girl and i have fallen in love with a boy in my class but he loves my best friend and i am getting jealous she is very sexy and i am ok but how can i make him notice me, talk to me, and love me. please help me out or else i will start to cry.
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reader, tsukimoon +, writes (11 October 2009):
 What I'm about to say may sound harsh, but its the advice I can give.So you think you "love" this guy? From what you said, it seems like a mere infatuation to me. You can't make people love you. It just has to happen. Would you actually go as far as to ruin your friendship with your best friend? You'd just be inviting a lot of trouble, right? I think you should move on..As far as talking and noticing goes, like the others said, you have to talk to him and make sure you have something to talk about.or, if that doesn't work, how about wearing a dunce cap and dancing in front of him? That'd definitely work! (jk)Good luck!Tsuki
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reader, hotredhead  +, writes (10 October 2009):
 okay first off at 13 your friend shouldn't be looking "sexy" she's too young and it sends out the WRONG message to boys. Remember he is a teenage boy and they don't think with their heads they think with what's in their pants. Seriously if he doesn't like you for who you are the chances are he's not worth your time i advise you t keep our dignity and wait for someone who respects you
good luck xx
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reader, Blod +, writes (10 October 2009):
 You might not like my answer, but seriously, at your age this should be the least of your worries. You're only 13 and you should be having fun! Not crying because you're jealous of your best friend.If you want him to notice you, then you go up and talk to him. There's no magic trick that will spark him to come to you. If you want to talk to him then I reckon you'll have to take the first step.But I think you should just move on from it personally. You can't make anyone love you. Someone out there will love you without you having to do anything apart from be yourself. At the moment you're young so just have fun and enjoy yourself. That is what you should be doing at 13.Good Luck. X
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2009): Hi
Darling, grow up. Also, it is a complete myth that boys only get attracted to sexy girls. Sure, they like to flirt with one but remember, no matter what the age, boys do get attracted to intelligent, confident women. And yes, no matter what the age boys somehow can read whether a woman is desperate to win him (in which case they run away equally fast). The trick to attracting guys, in my opinion, is to be yourself, be comfortable with who you are. At 13, of course it is very tough, but you can try to find who you are, through experiences, and learning things. That will make you interesting. Also, act cool when you see him, like you don'r care about him or any other man because your life rocks. Guys love to chase the ones they can't get easily. OF course, if you really do make your life so interesting, it will be by far more gratifying than any guy's attention.
Why am I saying this? Well, because now that i am past that age, I remember being into art and music etc and now that I am past it, I wish I could have done more, read more, met more interesting people and had more fun! That's why.
Now, honey, it is not a good idea to disrupt anything between your best friend and that guy. Come on, you think that any guy is worth breaking up a friendship? Girls take it very seriously and it is a betrayal, and even if you manage to get that guy, how will it feel to know that you 'stole' him? It is a horrible feeling and no man is worth that. But, you make your life rocking and soon you will find a man who loves you (yeah, we will keep saying that because experience has taught us that this is the truth). And believe me, there's little more gratifying than having a man love you on your own terms. Many of us have changed who we were to win a guy, we realized that we were very uncomfortable with the sudden change and the guy then dumped us, and then it took us soooo long to get back to who we were. Not a nice situation, and at 13 it is normal to feel this way.
Go ahead and shed tears honey, that is far better than changing for a guy!
Love
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reader, Sincerely Yours  +, writes (10 October 2009):
 Is that a threat? If we don't help you you will shed poisonous tears on us? I wouldn't want that on my list of bad karma.
I would first like to advice you not to throw around the term "love" like a prickly cactus ball. It's a big thing, a committment, an appreciation of good qualities and an understanding and acceptance of bad qualities. It's a decision, an emotion and hard, hard work. I'm almost positive that you have a crush on him and he has a crush on your best friend. No love involved. Please try to understand that. If you tell someone you love them too early when you don't know if you really mean it, then you will regret it later, when you find that really have fallen deeply in love. You will wish that you saved those words for him.
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It sounds to me like you are about to start a very nasty fire. You're going behind your best friend's back to pull this guy away from her. Love triangles are a bad enough thing without the ones involved being close friends.
And quite frankly, there is nothing you can do to MAKE him like or love you. If he doesn't, then he doesn't. And you should never change anything about yourself to make him. You will be happiest with a guy notices you on his own, and appreciates you on his own, without you having to prove it to him, or tweak yourself to make him like you. And the guy who picked the sweet "ok" looking girl, over te supposedly "sexy" one, is the right one. The one who chooses your personality over your friend's tight fitting clothing, is a guy who will make you very happy. Just wait and find someone who can't take his eyes off of you and who would never even glance in the direction of you best friend's direction.
But starting this fire between the three of you, is a very bad idea and could very easily lead to some very achey hearts.
~Sy.
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