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writes:I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now. In the time that I have known him he has lived with his dad and he is far too old to be doing that. I lived with him there for a while and have my own place now, but how do I convince him he needs to get his stuff in order or he will lose me? I love him sooo much, but enough is enough and I won't wait around forever. I look at getting married and having kids but refuse to do it with someone who won't take responsability and move out. Another thing, he never works enough, at least he has a job but that's not enough for me. I work 40 hours a week, why can't he? I just don't know what to do. We have a great relationship but I can't get him to budge and make the commitment I'm looking for. Please help!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, heavyheart04 +, writes (5 September 2008):
heavyheart04 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou make a good point, and he has said that he doesn't want to leave his dad, but a lot of it has to do with pure laziness. He is 28 and honestly I think might be scared to go out of his safe zone. But you are right, I know I can't change him, I guess I was just hoping he would realize he needed to do it on his own. Thanks a lot for the great advice. I'll keep you posted on how it goes. I know I won't wait around forever, so it could very well lead to a break-up. It might be what he needs to get motivated and think of what he wants to do with his life. Thanks again!
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (4 September 2008):
 Then maybe hes not the right guy for you. Why do you want him to move out of his dad's already, you are fairly young I assume he is around the same age?? Its normal for girls to want to leave as soon as they can but boys actually tend to stick around a bit longer in most cases. My ex hubbie was 25 when he left home and his brother was 27. It could also be that he cant afford his own house or doesnt want to leave his dad alone, maybe his dad needs him emotionally or even financially to contribute towards the household. You need to decide what you want but you cant control him, let him live his own life and if you cant wait for him to be ready then move on x
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