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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I am 25 years old, pretty darn sexy (if I do say so myself ;D) and just recently found myself with a friend with benefits three years younger than me...Great, right? Yeah, only... he couldn't get it up. He'd been drinking the night before and it seems it affects him that way, plus he might have been a bit nervous (you know, first time with a new partner, and all). I tried helping him along, with oral or manual stimulation, but to no avail. I know it's pretty common and I shouldn't take it to heart, but a part of me can't stop wondering if it was something I did, or didn't do.I mean, he obviously wanted to have sex and we did other things that felt great (all in all it was great sex anyway), but I feel bad that he didn't get to orgasm. The whole point of the thing is to have uncomplicated (safe) fun, and if he can't get it up, how can I be sure he is enjoying himself?He was a perfect gentleman and made sure I came, but I wanted him to feel good, too.So here is my question: guys, how much do you feel when you are not erect? Does it still feel good to get a handjob or oral without an erection? Is there anything that can be painful under the circumstances? What about your testicles, does it feel good to have them massaged or sucked on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): I appreciate your help, but the thing is, you're not answering my question...
What I asked is not what I could do to get him to get it up... I know that when your body doesn't cooperate, it may not always be possible. I'm asking whether it still feels good to have a penis fondled or sucked on even when it's not erect.
Women go into sex without being physically aroused all the time, you know, and that doesn't mean that we don't enjoy it. It's not even considered strange if we don't get to reach orgasm, but that doesn't mean that our partners shouldn't do everything possible to make sure we have a good time. Sex is good even when we don't reach climax (which sure, is great, if we can get it).
So far everything I've read focuses on what the guy can do for *me* when he can't get an erection, so I was wondering what I could do for *him*. I've heard it's even possible for a man to reach orgasm even when he doesn't get an erection (from a book written by a man who suffers from chronic ED due to having had his prostate and parts of the nerves around it removed), but I'm not sure if that applies to all men.
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reader, Brunel  +, writes (5 April 2010):
Do not forget how modest you are Ms?
Nothing to worry about just keep doing what you are doing!
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