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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:My wife has been feeling neglected for the last 6 months! She feels needed not wanted! We both love each other very much! I have been smothering her with my love which has caused her to feel NEEDED not wanted! A guy at her work made her feel the way she wanted to feel... "Wanted"! She had an affair! She regrets it! my heart is broken but I want to make it work! How do I make her feel WANTED not NEEDED! Please help
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (10 December 2009):
Needed is only complimenting her on what she DOES for you: eg. You cook so well, you keep the house so neat, what would I do without you etc. Wanted is complimenting her on who she IS: eg. You are so sexy, you look hot darling, etc. Sexually focus on HER pleasure completely. Dont focus on only doing what you enjoy, even if she goes along with it. Give her a romantic "all about you" evening where you take her somewhere special, give her little gifts throughout the evening. Instead of only buying her a sexy teddy, also buy something sexy you can wear for her pleasure/humor. Think about if you were in her shoes what would you like? Probably a night of oral? Then do that for her
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2009): Instead of expecting her to do her womanly duties and household chores go out, take her dancing, look at her and show you are attracted to her. IOW, regard her as though you did not know her and wanted to date her. Don't take her for granted. Make her feel special.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2009): Does she want to make it work?
If so ask what she needs to make her feel the way she wants. Flirt with her. Think about how you were toward her when you were dating. Tease her, toy with her, fall in love with her all over again. I know this will be harder with your current heartache. But if you both want to make it work, you need to rediscover each other. Learn what each of your needs are now, they always change in time.
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