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male
age
30-35,
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writes:Ok, well my last ex and I broke up around January 2009. It was a mutual break up because she moved to America (I live in Australia) and we agreed that it could be too dufficult keeping a long distance relationship. We've kept in touch because we both wanted to stay close friends (and still do).The problem is that fairly recently (about 4-5 months ago) she admitted that she still has feelings for me and is in love with me, whereas I have eventually moved on and have developed a crush on somebody else. She is fairly open about how she feels about me and gets easily depressed if I were to accidently mention the girl I like. I'm afraid that if I were to directly say that I have moved on from her and she should move on too she could slip into an even deeper depression.How am I supposed to tell her/get her to realise that she needs to move on too without upsetting her too much?
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reader, Mia Rio  +, writes (19 February 2010):
I would try and remind her why you both broke up in the first place next time she openly tells you how she feels.
I would also distance yourself a little from her and try and not indulge her when she tells you she still likes you.
She is living in hope that you feel the same so if you dont speak to her as much she will get used to not relying on you as much.
You need to be cruel to be kind!
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