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writes:I recently Left my boyfriend of 3+years. I told it it would be a "break". Things between us have been bad for over a year now. He drinks too much and seems to never be there when i need him. He says he loves me, and all that junk. But in my mind actions speak louder than words, his actions are to go to the bar and play poker. That kinda lifestyle was fine when we were in our 20's, but its time to grow up. See the problem is I am not letting him go, i fear that i am leading him on to believe that we could get back together. Which i am not sure if i want. I go back and forth with wanting to be with him and not wanting to be with him. How do I let go?
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reader, mz_lani1 +, writes (14 December 2008):
 Its hard to let go of someone that u love so much that "us women" are crazy enuff to stay longer and we are always putting more effort into the relationship than they do..Cuz i'm still hanging in there. Im not givin up on my relationship but I've learned that since he doesnt want to change, y still be together when it aint goin nowhere..Girl--I jus got thru tryna talk things out wit my fiance n i was about to call it quits but i chickened out cuz of my son, Im not workin, im in skoo while he provides..U dont even kno--I wanna leave so bad but i dont want to..Im confused my damn self..but I kno this much tho, he can do all that he do but he aint gon' find anyone like u..cuz its their major loss. i mean they dont stop to think that we have feelings too, they dont even care enuff to ask anymore like they used to in the beginning..but thats jus it, its always in the beginning that its all so lovey-dovey, but wen years goes by,-OMG..LOL..it goes sour n den it might even gets worse..
but back to ur story..Honestly u aint the only one goin thru wut u r goin thru now..im tired of it but i gotta keep it movin..i jus focus on my son n i act like i dont care anymore n give him a taste of his own medicine, u kno..thats just me tho..sometimes I jus want to give him a good hard slap on the face to kicc in reality n some sense into his dumbfounded butt..lol..
men-mEn-MEN..I would pray about it..but it takes some time to get ur prayers answered..
Hopefully this helps n sorry if it doesnt help..
Good Luck and Happy Holidays..
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