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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been in love with this female for like 6+ months now. We used to work together and when we did she would flirt with me slick touch my hands arm. We would text all the time well mostly snap chat. I asked her one day if she was bi her response was "a lot of people think I am because how I act but I'm not" well I lose my job an me an her still talk all the time I confess my love to her tell her I can't talk to her again no more deleted her from fb snapchat everything! Well the next day I am already missing her so I sent her friend request she accepts them an everything is back to normal well some girls I used to work with told her I was talking shit about her and I legit wasn't an then she told me we can't be cool so we stop talking for like a week and then we are back to being friends again she would tell me she loved me send me emojis with the eye hearts and the kissing ones all the time she really makes me feel some type of way! I have told her how much I care for her all the time she never says she feels the same way she never says much really about the subject but it just confuses me why she still talks to me the same way..the past month has been bad tho I took her some coffee to work and the female that didn't like me seen me an went to the girl I love an was like how are you friends with her it pissed me off pissed her off we got in an fight an literally didn't talk for a month because she blocked me on everything...it was hard af for me finally one day she unblocked me an after about a month of talking here an there we became friends again on fb...I feel like I need to let her go but it's so hard! I am so in love with her! Part of me feels like she feels the same but she tells me she doesn't so I leave it alone now.. My question is how do I leave someone alone that I know will never love me the same way? Or should I keep talking to her in hopes of one day she will finally be with me ..ugh I feel like I crave something I will never get...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2016):
I am in the same situation and i know how frastuating it can be...i tried cutting her off...but all of a sudden she will be saying that she misses me ....and its all back to zero
the fear of losing a friend of 13 years makes things worse...
so the best advice is to just cut her out of your life..though its easily said than done
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2016): She toys with your affections and you can't see that for trying to turn her attention into more than what it is.
She likes the fact you long and pine for her; it strokes her ego knowing someone is infatuated with her. What you have to stop doing, is feeding into her ego. It is doing you more harm than good.
Being infatuated with a person who isn't reciprocating the same feelings is obsession. You have to fight it with all
your might, and avoid being a drama-queen at all costs.
Feeling sorry for yourself is unhealthy. You will continue seeking her approval and acceptance, only for her to keep you working harder; but not really getting what you want.
You're being played emotionally, and you'd be better off to sever all ties; because you will only break your obsession and return to reason, when you show some maturity and let go altogether. Can it with all that social media tit-for-tat! You're not emotionally-equipped to handle it. You're a hot mess, and she's pretty much manipulating you. Making fun of your weakness; by pushing your buttons, only because she can.
Stop it! You can't have her. If she wanted you as much, you wouldn't be on DC pouring out your heart to us.
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