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female
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30-35,
*onelyjess
writes:Okay so today i took my boyfriend lunch on his lunch break and while he was on his way i looked through his condom stash to count how many were left because i knew how many we have used. And it turned out that 6 were missing, i didnt look to see if they fell out of the box by any chance but i asked him about it and he said " you know what? if you keep this up you will get cheated on!" and i said "well i was just wondering since i bought them and all so i looked to see how many were left" and i just got upset and started crying and he got mad and said "you know what? i dont have time for this " and i tried to give him a hug and he wouldnt give me one so i just left crying then about a mile away i turned around and headed back cause i knew we had to talk, by the time i was headed back he said "the nissan place is the other way" (because thats where i work) and i said pull over lets talk and he was like no just tell me through a txt im a work trying to get crap done. so i said "i messed up, im always expecting something to be wrong since something is almost always wrong. i have never had anything good in my life without there being some kind of flaw in it and this is the first and i hope its real". he replied with "Ha. like you said, you messed up" i said "i just want this to be real" and he said " its fake" then i said "if you wanna act crazy and start drama and play games then as far as im concerned do it with someone else. im tired of the crap and i dont have to put up with it." and i said "please dont be like this i know i messed up i know im a horrible person i know i gotta work on things but everyone has flaws, im better, i can be better, i can do it.We have been going out for a year and a half with no break ups and i want it to last. i ask him if im the only girl in his life maybe once a week and i need advice on how to stop
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reader, LIERIN +, writes (25 July 2008):
 Om .. I dont think he will go every time and tell you !
"Honey today I have been masturbating in our condoms! It felt great!" ... common girl!!!! Give that poor guy some privacy. I am sure he is not cheating on you .. and if he is after all? Than he is not the right one .. but I wouldnt worry so much about it
Why dont you jsut ask him streight?
Where are the condoms?
Maybe you will be supriced what his answer will be ..
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reader, lonelyjess +, writes (24 July 2008):
lonelyjess is verified as being by the original poster of the question and i know that he couldnt have been masturbating in them, he would have told me, because he has told me stuff like that before
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reader, lonelyjess +, writes (24 July 2008):
lonelyjess is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe never do it anywhere else besides his house, and I know that he didnt give any to any of his friends because of the fear he has of buying them. I'm just so confused, he finally got over being mad at me for snooping through his stuff and he sent me a text saying that he loved me, it made me feel better but i would still like to know where the condoms went...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2008): I know it is strange but I have heard that some men use condoms to masterbate in, which would be very embarrassing for him to admit. This kind of question from you will never produce anything good, you have to learn early on to think about things before you ask.......let me explain, if he did mess around on you, he would never admit it just because you asked, if he used them to masterbate, he doesn't want to tell you because it is embarrassing, if someone stole the condoms he would think you aren't going to believe him....so no matter what the senario, it is a bad question to ask him. You make yourself look insecure and controlling by admitting you counted the condoms, this is just a lose, lose situation. Never ask a question that you know up front is only going to force your boyfriend to lie to you, or make you look foolish.If you are suspicious of him, watch him closely, stop by unannounced, things like that but now that he knows you are suspicious, he is on to you and will be more sneaky if he is doing something.Good luck to you and try to be a little less impulsive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2008): Sorry to say, but your boyfriend sounds bad choice. Does he always respond to you with such anger and meanspiritedness?
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (24 July 2008):
 By doing things like that, you're ruining good moments. By saying "What would I do if without him" you're actually messing up the time when you ARE together.
Why is it that when we're happy we can't seem to enjoy it? We always tell ourselves "It's only a matter of time before it get worse.." or we think about negative things.
You want to stop doing what you do? Simple, stop! Turn you tongue 7 times in your mouth before saying something.
By nagging him, he probably feel as if you don't trust him.
Enjoy the time being together as if it was your last, because maybe, one day, it truly will be your last.
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reader, LIERIN +, writes (24 July 2008):
First of all .. just because those condoms are missing doesnt mean that he is using them with other girls. He could of take some of them and put them in the car or pants or such .. just in case that you guys are "doing it" somewhere else than home and he wants to be ready. There is also possibility that he gave some to his friends who was in need of them! Dont start crying and yelling about this. I am sure there is nothing goint on .. you are just beeing paranoi and you are affraid that something is going on! Trust me, I know, I use to be like that. I have been through many bad relationships, and when I got my BF (btw the best guy on earth) I couldnt believe that he was actually normal and wasnt there to hurt me or cheat on me or beat me up! It took me a long time, and it took lots of nervs from my boyfriend to go what we went through w my insecurities and low trust ! But I build myself up and now I know Ihave the good thing in himIf you trust him, dont bother with such stuff.If you dont trust him and there is more into this story than you are telling us, than keep your eyes open, but dont yell,argue or such when you ahve no prove!good luck
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