A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Don't know how to love myself anymore. I have a 3 year old daughter and have been really struggling with the weight ever since I had her. My stomach is COVERED with stretch marks still. And I feel as if my body is ruined. I hate this feeling of hating myself. Today at the beach there was a woman with a baby probably a few months old and she (the woman) was there in a bikini with no stretch marks, no fat stomach. And here I am 3 years later with a disgusting body. I try to talk to my husband of 7 years about it and he just gets mad at me and threatens to leave if I dont get over it. I have tried exercising and eating right but I can only do so much with the time that I have. And sometimes I feel like what is the point because it is not going to do anything for the stretch marks and sagging skin on my stomach. How do I learn to love myself again?
View related questions:
stretch marks Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2012): I completely agree with the person who last posted. You are beautiful no matter what. being a mom is a hard job and it take its toll on the body. I strongly belive your husband finds you very attractive the same way Im feeling attracted to my wife with the same problem. What I think is that you should keep working on your goals and eventually you will see the difference, be aware that it will take time, so be patient, be persistant and reward will come thru the mirror. But most important never compare yourself with the new mom in the bikini, bodies as different, You are very young and you have all the years to come to get your body the way it was back then before your pregnancy. You are a beautiful mom.
A
female
reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (26 August 2012):
 I am a mother of two I don't care for my stretch marks either but it is what it is. I worked hard to get abs a few times but it does take time also strict calorie count I got very sick once also and had to starve myself for a while: no meat, bread, sugar, processed meats, uuummm chicken patties, Bologna, nothing but vegetables, fruit, granola, yogurt, salad, almonds it sucked and it was very challenging. Hang in there women, mothers have rolls and stretch marks its a part of real life.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2012): Like a post I seen on Facebook, you're a tiger whose earned her stripes. It takes time, I'm going through the same thing with my wife. She's not the same as she was at 17 tan years and 3 kids later, but still beautiful none the less. I bet your husband feels the same as I do. Do what you can, kids are tough. Over time you will have what ou desire.
...............................
|
