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writes:How do I know whether to stay or go? I am 26 and my exboyfriend is 28. We have been on and off for the past three years. The last break was 6 months of "no contact", which was the longest break we had ever taken. In that time, both of us improved some things in our lives that were putting a strain on our relationship. I still love him and he says he still loves me but he is not ready to give 100% to a commitment because he is still working on changing things in his life for the better. He wants to see if we can be friends before we re-enter another relationship. We have been friends now for 2 months. However, we have had some arguments within this time about the past. Mostly dealing with problems that had not been resolved from the last break. We are both really hurt about the break and he says that he does not trust me to not break up with him again. I broke up with him because the relationship was not progressing because of his commitment issues. He can also be pretty distant at times and that drives me crazy.I feel that if he really loved me, he would want to be with me now. In our 6 month break, I casually dated a couple of guys and he now has a new "girl" friend that he talks to on a regular basis. He says they are just friends, but I have my doubts. He says that if I really loved him, I would want to see him happy. I see him once every other week and he playfully flirts with me and stares at me. I can feel his love for me when we are together. I just don't know if he really just wants to be friends or if he wants me back. I have asked him and he says he is still not ready. Keep in mind that I was the one who contacted him after the 6 month break. Should I remain friends with him or cut it off? And how much longer should I let this go on because I am hurting that we are not together?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2007): Get a life!! There are plenty more lovely blokes out there, get a one that you so deserve and stop wasting time with this nonsense idiot!
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