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writes:Hi,Ive been with my boyfriend for 4 months now and he is everything ive wanted in a guy. Just recently he has asked to have a break as he has got so many issues in his life. Is this really a break or a break up. I still love him so much and he has been acting very strange since he said he wants a break. He still wants to be friends. What does this exaclty mean?
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (7 June 2008):
 Sometimes when there is a lot going on we need to be alone to put everything into perspective and decide where we are going.
I had a friend who's bloke decided he wanted a break after a pretty traumatic time in his life but he did come back to her and they are now happily married, he just needed to re-evaluate his life and realised he still wanted her in it.
So it doesnt mean it is over for good but set him a reasonable time limit, dont tell him this though, and if he has not made a decision by this date then you must decide to either end it or hold on a bit longer but you cant wait for ever x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): It means he wants to break up. Its not just a break. He might have met someone else. And the reason he might just want to be "friends" with you is to keep you as a back up. But don't let him string you along like that. I wouldn't be his friend if I were you. Listen to the song "moving on" by Taio Cruz. Listen to the lyrics...it might inspire you to "move on."
No amount of issues can stop a man who loves you from being with you...so clearly he doesn't love you...Let it go and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): I suggest, if you really love him as much as you claim, give the guy the space and time he is asking for, stay friends with him and be supportive. The sooner he get his life on track or issues sorted the sooner you will know if you are getting togehter or not. If you really love, be patient give him time.
If you are not all that much in love, stay friends but make it clear to him that you are going to be dating other people and then start doing so! If he is really very much "into" you, I believe he will sort out his issues quick not to loose you!
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): Your poor boyfriend is probably going through a lot and just needs a little space and time to clear out his mind. It doesn't seem as though it's anything personal, although I know it is probably easy for you to assume so. Just be patient and try not to worry. Eventually he will come round and he'll know what he wants... If you really want to be with him just give him a little time to get himself together again.
Good Luck, try not to be too stressed.
Emivia. x
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