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writes: Does anyone have any tips on how I can figure out how to tell if he really likes me or if he just wants a peice? Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (25 January 2006):
 The simplest way is going to be by not having sex with him, and seeing if he still drops around for your company.
That's going to seem like harsh advice to some minds, so maybe instead of having sex with him next time you see him, you suggest that the two of you go and do something different, but fun. You know... like a date? Think about what brought you both together and see if there's some (other) activity that you can do instead of just having sex.
However, if by "tips" about how to tell how he regards you, you mean the way he holds his arms when he's talking, or whether he avoids using certain words, then No, I don't think you can. People have different reasons for being attracted to each other and there aren't any hard and fast rules.
One quick rule-of-thumb though: if you two met and started having sex before you ever got to be friends, or even before you really knew each other very well, then chances are, you're booty only. Most guys are perfectly happy to have sex with someone they barely know, with no strings attached. (Sometimes it develops into something more, but most times, not. That's the way male brains and libidos work, for the most part.)
If he regards you as only good for sex, and you choose not to have sex, he'll likely as not stop showing up on your doorstep as soon as he realises sex is not forthcoming.
What happens next is you decide, is that such a bad thing? To be abandoned by someone who only sees you as a receptacle? Personally, unless the sex is World Class, I'd say it's better to know where you stand.
Good luck with it, however it turns out.
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