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writes:Any suggestions on keeping an 8-month relationship from becoming "boringly comfortable"? * cliff notes version:**been together 8 months, known eachother for 16mo.** Age gap relationship, I'm older** everything is still good (no fights or drama)** great communication** no fears or anxiety Just looking to find new ways to keep it alive and exciting. Reply to this Question
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (29 November 2007):
You have only been together 8 months and are already worrying about it being "boringly comfortable"? Hmmm. In my experience, and there is science to back this up too, generally the first 6-8 months of a relationship is that "honeymoon" phase where you are both high on the love/sex hormones. That phase is not meant to last and I think you need to come to terms with that and let it evolve.
When you get past that phase, I think is when you find out what kind of relationship you have really got together. Are you really friends? Do you have common interests? Do you do stuff together that you are both into? Shared passions will help keep you close. Not taking the other person for granted will help keep you close. I have a girlfriend who says she still 'dates her husband". She still dresses up for him, and does special things to show she cares.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (29 November 2007):
A great way i now trust is to take a moment before sleeping and thinking of your partner and all the things you would love to do and try them out when you are together.Your imagination is sharpest at that moment.Another way is to help him come out of his shell.He's not really exploding because you are older and mature but once you show him that you still think "he's the man".He's brain will be racing ten times faster to try and be the man.Then you can sit back and enjoy the show.Your input is also needed.Just do more things together and you'll soon find things that can spice you relationship.
All the best.
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reader, laurastorm  +, writes (29 November 2007):
maybe you should surprise him with maybe a nice romantic meal and then some time alone together,
really you need to find out what he likes and try to work a plan out,
laurastorm
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