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writes:Hey guys, I hope you can help with my love dilemma. Basically, I met this guy new years eve. He blew me away, and I fancied him so much we ended up sleeping together. The next day, he left, we didnt exchange numbers or anything and I thought I would never see him again. I just put the whole thing to the back of my mind. Anyway, after a week or so, I realise that I still like him. And after getting advice on here from a previous post, I plucked up the courage to message him on facebook. And Im glad I did. Because he told me he felt the same, he gave me his number and we arranged to meet again. This time however, he told me he was in the army. And that he was based 300 miles away. He had to go back the next day. So we didnt really have a lot of time to get to know each other. But, he asked me before he left what I wanted i.e. fun/relationship etc, I said I like him a lot and I want to see him again. He asked if bothered me that I would hardly ever see him I said no because the times that I would get to see him would be extra special. He gets leave at xmas easter and in the summer and stuff and we live close to each other so I would see him when hes on leave.My problem is though, now he is away, I dont know what I should do to keep it going between us. I know I will always be attracted to him but Im worried he might go off me cos he will hardly see me, or worse, meets someone else. Because we didnt have alot of time to get to know each other, I dont really know his personality and I dont know what to do to keep him interested. We have each others numbers and speak on facebook but its weird......like I dont know how often I should message him and I dont want to start annoying him. Also, I dont know completely where I stand. Obviously we are not an item, that would be ridiculous weve only met twice, but I want to know how he sees me and whether he would or wouldnt mind me dating other guys (not that I want to at all - I suppose what Im trying to say is can I call myself single or am I taken)??? I know that maybe I should be asking him this but I dont want to appear too keen. I really, really like him and I want it to work.
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reader, ashley187  +, writes (9 February 2011):
 You shouldn't call yourself "taken" until you have committed to a relationship with this person, however if you are willing to try and keep things going while he's away you should probably talk to him about what his intentions are with you. Don't waste your time or pass up chances of meeting someone really great while this guy may just want you to have fun with when he comes home. Be friends, but until you feel eachother out and with him being gone as soon as you meet-- its hard to say what you should do. I think it's too early to label yourself right now.
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