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writes:So I've recently started dating a girl I quite like; we get along well, we enjoy each others company and we can joke around with each other and act coupley.Basically I want to be in a relationship with her. Now there is a problem; we've been dating for a couple of weeks and now she has had to go home for a month to stay with family.She's a student so her semester has these stop gaps and this is one of them and every year during this stop gap she goes back home. Home for her is pretty far away; so far that a simple visit isn't so simple.Basically the problem is this; I can't go and visit her because it's too soon for me to meet her family and due to the small area she was raised in that would be a guarantee if I went.She can't visit me because this is her time home that she is meant to be spending with her family.We're talking via text and instant messaging but my concern is that after this month she'll lose interest in me after being away from me for so long.Is there any idea on what I can talk about or do to keep her interested over this distance period?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (20 March 2014):
 A month is not a long period of time in the span of life... i know it can seem like a lifetime when the one you love is away.
when my husband and i were dating and LDR we had a routine... I called him to wake him up at a set time every day at his request and also every night when I got into bed for my bedtime "tuck in"....
do not be overly attentive to her or needy... give her time and space to visit family and friends without having to check in with you every hour... besides it will give you two more to talk about every night.
"hi honey I missed you today... what did you do?"
btw use phone calls not texts....
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reader, Marilissa75 +, writes (17 March 2014):
 Just continue to communicate by text and instant message. Don't be too needy about it, though. Wait for her to reply each time you send a message so it does not look desperate. If she likes you, she'll be thrilled to see you after a month. Be yourself, be attentive and kind and considerate. Also stay focused on your own development and interests to stay healthy and interesting. Best of luck!
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reader, llifton +, writes (17 March 2014):
 I know this time is meant to spend with her family, but I don't see why you couldn't take a day and visit her after about the two week mark. I don't think that would be considered rude. One day isn't demanding much.
If not, Than let her know how you feel. Let her know you really like her and that you'd like to keep in touch while she's away and pick back up where you two left off when she gets back. If she likes you as much as it sounds, I'm sure she will be excited to hear how much you like her. It can't hurt to just communicate with her. Good luck.
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