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writes:I have been seeing this man for about 3 yrs and he has lived with me for the past yr and a half he is bipolar and I and having troubles dealing with it I am always telling him im sorry for things that isnt my fault and always treating him as he is the king and I am some servant. I work a full time job. He is retired due to his illness .Today he tells me he wants to go home to his house and stay and he wants me to leave mine to go with him and if I dont then he starts playing the dating game .He says he loves me I am finding that hard to believe due to the fact he can walk away so easily and not be bothered he never tells me he is sorry for anything he does and I might as well put a baby nipple on his whiskey bottle. I cant keep going like this it is mentally kicking my ass and i work a hard job dealing with terminally ill. I really dont need this shit but how do I just Stop Loving this man ... Reply to this Question
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reader, Chippy2  +, writes (21 June 2009):
There are many kinds lof love. Sometimes we find ourselves with someone we 'love' but it not a healthy relationship.
We stay in it because we have a need to be needed or wanted or want to ease anothers pain.
But he doesnt seem to 'love' you back - he is needy and draining the life force out of you.
Being w someone bi-polar is a tough road. U can see it is not working.
I bet you will feel relieved when he is back at his place. Just be careful though because he may get violent.
We each get one life. Please seek calling a womansplace to get a professionals help in managing what is going on with you.
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2009): Firstly if I was your friend, I'd be praising you and celebrating in joy that you finally see the bad side of this man. Next step I would encourage you to dump his spoiled butt.
It sounded like you loved treating him like he was your little pet...but a pet that only uses you for food and runs away to hump other dogs when he is done eating. Looks like he just wants someone to keep taking care of him. And appears to love making you feel guilty for it. I'd get him out of your house if I were you...a friend can treat you better than this guy. Hey you are doing what he wants anyway, and that is the dating game right? If you feel this badly about it, then I can assume he does not love you.
You have this meaningful job and your own house...I wouldn't give it up for someone like him that's for sure. Ps it does not sound like you "love" him. But you do care about him. I hope you can bring yourself to just leave him. If you do that, you can let go this "love" feeling a little easier each day.
Good luck ^^
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