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writes: How and when should I introduce my 12 y.o. son to my new partner after my divorce? It has not been long since the divorce, but I have been separated for quite a while, and it is no secret to my ex that I am with someone new. I suspect my son knows too, but I want to ease into it properly, since he will likely be spending time with us (my new partner and me) once I introduce him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): Hi there!
My mother had been thru several marriages so she was careful about how she introduced me to her bf who would later become my stepfather. She had us meet him in a open atmosphere so we'd feel a little more at ease and the fact things weren't very private helped. She brought me to my favorite place at the time so instantly that made me feel comfortable. It was wendy's lol cause as a lil fat kid i loved frostys. He bought them and we sat and had short break the ice convo, nothin too heavy. I was around 12 years of age too. Id highly recommend something like this. At that age tho, you have an advantage cause the kid has lots of comfort zones. Find one, utilize it, and perhaps thatll help ease him into things like it did for me. Good luck :)
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (16 October 2010):
 Oh gosh! So sorry! My apologies, I didn't read your info carefully and assumed you were female...so sorry (and embarassed).
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reader, followtheblackrabbit +, writes (16 October 2010):
As the child of divorced parents, I will tell you that it won't be easy. So make sure that this man is very important to you and that you've known him a while before you introduce him to your son. You should talk to your son, get him used to the idea and learn about his feelings on you dating. Tell him a little about the guy like but nothing too detailed, simple facts. Prepare the man too. He shouldn't push himself on your son too much, it might appear like he's trying too hard or being fake. So, he shouldn't be bringing presents :p I do not reccomend an at-home dinner for the first meeting (quite awkward), a place like Dave n Busters is cool. It would put your son at ease and if he gets comfortable enough, you guys can all play games and have fun. Laughter is an amazing ice-breaker :) Afterwards, don't ask your son how he liked your guy. He'll make it known how he feels on his own and you asking might make him pressured. Be relaxed! If ur nervous, they'll pick up on it and feel the same. Good luck!
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reader, lil lisa  +, writes (16 October 2010):
tell him with your partner if he doesn't take 2 it nicely let him stay at his friends but do it at like an hour b4 he goes 2 sleep then hes got time 2 think about it make sure its at the weekend though just incase
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