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female
age
41-50,
*angchen
writes:i am having an affair with a girl since from my seventh standard and im still having the relation with her and she loves me very much. she even says that nobody should come into my life except her. if i happen to leave her she says she will commit suicide. i too love her, but the problem is how to introduce her to my parents although they know her as my close friend and my friends take as my cousin. what should i do? do i need to continue and spend the rest of my life with her? please advice me.
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reader, DIE-romantic.  +, writes (29 June 2007):
 That is total emotional blackmail, and slight obsession. You shouldnt have to spend the rest of your life with her. Theres no gain in it for you, it would be like slavery. Your not happy, theres no point at all. Theres alot for you to think about here, if you cant see yourself spending the rest of your life with her, break it off now before it does get too late, but do it as gently as possible just in case she may see the threat through. I hope it goes okay for you. xxxxx
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reader, love-him +, writes (29 June 2007):
 Um hi babe, she says she will commit suicide, if u leave.. ive been in SOO many relationships like that, and they dont do it, thats just the blackmail to try and keep you. honestly if u EVER want to end it, dont hesitate. Now i know u dont want to end it, the question is about introducing her. Invite her and your family to dinner, and then it should take from there.. mail me if u would like to talk x x xx x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007): SWEETY,
You canot go through life making other people happy if you are not, You say you to love her, then at the end of your question you ask if you need to spend the rest of your life with her... Do you love her as a friend or are you in love with her? The worrying thing here is the suicide threat if you leave her, That is the most terrible kind of emotional blackmail... darling you have to think how you really feel and if you do really care for her then you should only be to happy for her to be introduced to your family as your girlfriend, If you just want a frienship and love her as a friend then i can understand why you may feel pressure at doing this, As its not how you really feel and you would be lying not only to yourself but to your family... sweetheart think very carefully and to be under the pressure of the suicide threat canot be helping at all message me if you need a chat ok YOU TAKE CARE OF YOU LOVE MANDY XXXXXX
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