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writes:Ok so i'm 19, and my boyfriend is also. He has fingered me a couple of times, and now i want to give him a hand job. Trouble is i don't know how to initiate it, im quite shy and get embarassed easily. How should i start it off?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankss thats helped a lot :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): just remember that with like 95% of guys they always want sexual contact so whatever you do there's pretty much no possible way you're gonna embarrass yourself because he's going to be too excited to notice. like even if you just go straight for his privates all of a sudden, he's not gonna be like "omg i can't believe she didn't even trail down my torso first," he's gonna be like "yay i got a handjob". but yeah i would just start by doing whatever you can think of that normally turns him on (kissing his neck, nibbling/sucking his ears, it's different for every guy) and then gradually just start feeling the different parts of his body... like trail your hand down his stomach and squeeze/press on his hips a little, etc. if you can access his "trail" then that's kind of cool to like follow it down from his belly button to his pants. then just start kind of rubbing/stroking his crotch through his pants... if you're worried about undoing his pants/belt than he'll probably undo it for you after a while if you keep rubbing him down there. or if you seem to have trouble getting him unbuttoned he'll probably help you. just don't worry about getting embarrassed. especially since this is the first time you're doing it, cause by the time he realizes what you're about to do he's not going to be thinking about much else lol trust me.
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reader, loner  +, writes (9 April 2009):
 I agree.... I normally do the same, i'm a really shy girl myself and dont really feel very comfy just around anyone, ask him what he wants and let him tell you, if not in more then 3 words, its a way of easily getting to know each other and each others bodies.... Sweet slow kisses, lots of them, move your hand over his pants and little touch him, move away and ask him if its okay if you touch him. If yes, kiss him again and then just do what comes to mind, its always better to do what your body wants then both of you will know.... Good luck! Xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): Helps to understand your experience.
If you've never had sex before don't fall into pressure or sorts if you don't want to have sex or are uncomfortable with the idea best to get to know each other well before you do any sorts of those shenanigans in my opinion.
stand up for what you want.
Well, what I do, when in bed (most often than not) I'm usually kissing him making out necking or what not. Usually I start off the "initiation" with caressing is upper body and slowly making my way down to his pelvic region playing with his pant's line best to unbutton or you can just stick your hand in there. -Going slow is really rewarding for him. agonizing turn on!
-best of luck! ;)
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