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anonymous
writes:Ok so my friend (actually fwb but much, MUCH more than that)and I are considering a threesome. I know this is a fantasy of his but I've admitted to him that it is actually somthing that I've always wanted to try as well. It would be with another woman, although he wouldn't have a problem with another man but I feel that I would.History...we've known each other a long time, are very comfortable around each other sexually and emotionally. We are not judgemental, overly jealous, and are pretty much open about everything when discussing our feelings and desires. I know I really want to do this and we have discussed how it would play out. He assures I would get the most attention and wants me to instruct the other woman. Also says if it gets uncomfortable at any time we would stop. I REALLY want to do this. It has been a secret fantasy of mine as well and I've only felt comfortable enough to tell him. I truly believe we would both enjoy it and he could sooooo satisfy us both. Problem is he wants me to be the one to choose the girl and I am not good at this.We don't want some random person and risk contracting something so it has to be someone who we sort of know, but we dont want it to be a friend or someone we see on a regular basis either. So my question is....where would I begin looking for a 3rd person and how would I approach her? I really want to do this but am just not sure how to go about it. Any suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2011): Thanks for your suggestions. I will give this some thought. There is actually this cute bartender/waitress at this bar that we frequent and she is very friendly. She knows we are always in there together and strikes up a conversation with us. Was considering her but I don't want to offend her if that is not something she has ever considered. Might have to wait and get a better vibe from her and then somehow casually bring up her thoughts on a threesome in general.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 October 2011):
 I suggest you check out www.swinglifestyle.com
create a profile and screen people... it's a lovely site and you can have a free membership.
When I was with my last husband we had a membership there... several of my friends also belong there and most folks I know there have had much success with that.
Also there are many adult yahoo groups and some are broken down by area... you could find someone from the lifestyle there.
screen them carefully... meet for coffee or dinner first... then plan the event...
best of luck to you... and be aware that sometimes fantasy is best left that way....
(and yes my last marriage broke up due to having an open lifestyle marriage and now I am in a totally monogamous relationship by choice)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 October 2011):
 This is a really tricky situation for both of you. Because if you don't want a stranger and you don't want it to be a friend well then there really is not a lot of people in between that. If you don't know anybody that would be up for a three some well then it is going to be very difficult to find someone. I guess you could always call a professional escorting agency who you know are legit and that are tested regularly for Sti's.
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