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writes:My best friend and I have been best friends for four years now and we've had our ups and downs (what teenage girls haven't?) but we've always pulled through and our relationship has remained intact.She's always had a pretty hard time at home (divorced parents who hate each other, her dad living 6 hours away, a mum who she just does not get on with) but recently, things have gotten worse. Her dad moved abroad at Christmas time and she's just gotten back from seeing him for two weeks and its clear things are getting too much. She's also dealing with her other "best friend" flirting with this guy she's CRAZY about and she says she feels like no one wants her and that she's never truly happy; she puts on a happy front but underneath..My parents aren't divorced and I'm in an 8 month relationship; I can't even begin to relate. But it tears me up to see her like this and it kills me knowing I can't do anything about it. I try to "just be there" for her but I don't know what to say any more and I just feel like a failure.What can I do for her? :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010): just stay with her, there really isnt much to say to her.... Just be there for her, give her comfort, listen to her. My best friend has been through lots of problems.. were still strong.. Her latest problem stems from a guy leaving her knocked up... We were on the phone for 2hrs wen she found out... All i said was ''im all urs wenever u want to talk. Anytime any day. So just make sure ur free to listen to her. Ur her mate and anything you do, she will love u all the same.... I hope that helps with anything... Good luck
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 April 2010):
 Just being there is enough because you showed her that she still has a friend in you .
You do not have to offer her any solution to her problems but by listening to her woes and rants , it is very good enough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010): Reassure her she will always have you never say stuff like oh me and my bf did this and that etc. You will make her feel bad go out and spend some girl time slumber parties go out to dinner places where she might in the end meet a guy. I had a good friend unfortanately we don't talk nomore one day outta the bloom I read her journal not wanting to to it was a phonebook where you keep numbers I only read one page it brought me to tears it really did she was also going through a hard time and I thought to myself ima write her a journal of my own I did I wrote it each day how I loved being her friend and foling around pranking our friends and such going out to parties I put that in her journal oh boy did she love it. She said that was one the nicest thing anyone has done. Do something from the bottom of her heart show her she has a true friend. Listen to her is probably one of the most important things you can do. Wish you both the best
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reader, Tt-7  +, writes (17 April 2010):
 I think the best way you could help her is just stay by her side the rest of the way. Even tho you don't know how it feels to be in her sitution.One big thing of edvice is to say things that would make her feel better or take her out. So she can get her mind off of things and have fun.
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