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*alanay1
writes:My best friend is a boy and I love him to pieces, in a non-romantic way.My best friend's girlfriend has messed him around pretty badly, and recently she broke up with him (for the second time). When she broke up with him, all of his friends (including me) stopped talking to her, because of how badly she'd hurt him and the way that she was acting about it (she basically moved on in like a day, started looking out for other guys, she kissed like 4 other guys in the space of a week after they broke up). Now they're back together because she needs the attention from all of his friends (her only friends are in year 11, our year, and she made them all through being dating him), but we can all see that she's using him. Does anyone have any idea what we can do to help him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2011): There isnt really anything you can do to help him. He has to learn for himself that shes no good for him. By isolating her and ganging up against her, you will make him feel sorry for her. And that could actually drive him towards her. If that isnt what you want then the best thing to do...hard as it may seem..is to let him get on with it. You can have an opinion and share it but you shouldnt interfere. Just be there for him and if need be, pick up the pieces without an 'i told you so'. Thats a true friend.
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reader, lalanay1 +, writes (17 April 2011):
lalanay1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnon- I'm not sure if your response was appropriate. After seeing my friend hurt like he has been twice, and watching his 'girlfriend' behave like she has, I cannot stand by and allow him to be hurt again.I am the last person who wants to interfere with a relationship- I myself have had a long term relationship ruined because of an interfering father, but the way she is treating him simply isn't moral, fair or right.
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reader, punkgirl14  +, writes (17 April 2011):
 okay u need to tell him.. if ur a true friend u will.. and if ur friendship is strong.. it will all work out completely the way its supposed too and if he gets mad and treats u bad at first dont get mad or blame him.. he wont wanna hurt u but he might at first.. so be strong through the whole thing and TELL him.. like i said before ur a true friend so tell him!!:) hopes this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2011): Did he ask for help or advice? If not then you say nothing and keep your opinions to yourself until he asks for your opinion.
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