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writes: Hi all, this is a question about my relationships within my familymy parents have been breaking up on and off all my life, they don't normally stay apart for longer than a few months and it's fine me and my sister can handle it because my mum couldn't get a job if her life depended on it (quite literally) so she needs my dad if she wants anywhere to live.The things that's changed recently and has made me seek some help is that the other night when we were talking at tea about a possible family holiday I said that I didn't really want to go anymore as I'm old enough to stay at home (and with my little sister being 14 we just argue all the time). When I said it my mum just ran out the room and my dad started screaming at me saying stuff like "have you never noticed that your mum is suffering from depression!?!?" . Well I hadn't I thought that due to her past that's just how she was... How do you help someone who is depressed, I know I said about her not being able to get a job etc but I do still respect her and love her so I want to help her, I don't really need any help about my dad because he just has affairs and doesn't support her so I find it hard to really care about him.Any help would be so apreciated.
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reader, AngelleMarie  +, writes (4 June 2010):
This is something i found on a website and i think it will help
1.Educate yourself about depression and its treatment.
2.Read everything you can about how it feels to be depressed. It will help to understand why your loved one behaves the way they do.
3.Caring for a depressed person can be very draining. Take some time out to care for your own needs.
4.Give them support and love when they need it.
5.It's okay to feel angry, upset or frustrated. Develop a support system for yourself so you have someone to vent your feelings to.
6.Remember that depressed people can be angry, withdrawn or sad. They may not feel like having sex or doing the things they used to enjoy. This does not mean that they don't love you anymore. It's the illness talking.
7.Normal daily activities like housework, grocery shopping or paying bills can seem overwhelming to a depressed person. You may need to help them out for awhile just as you would if they had any other illness.
8.Remind your loved one of the importance of continuing their treatments. Help them with remembering medications and appointments.
9.One of the most important things depression robs one of is hope. Give them hope in whatever form you can.
10.Let them know that although you are angry with their illness, you will always love them.
Tips:
1.The most important thing you can do is just to be there and give them your support.
2.It is not your fault that they are depressed. Depression is an illness.
3.If your loved one becomes suicidal, do not hesitate to contact their physician for assistance.
I hope this helps...
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