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writes:I'm 22, and my fiance is 28, We've been together for 2 years. We're both in school, and I'll be moving away to University in a couple months. We decided to hold off getting married until he graduates (about 2 years), as I'll be in school for a long time as I'm studying Medicine. Unfortunately, my mom and family, and sometimes his family, think we are too young and immature to get married. My sister didn't get married til after Law School and her career got started, but I feel that everyone finds 'the one' at different times in their life. We are very much in love, and compatible in every way, It just feels right to be with him, hopefully, for the rest of our lives. All this doubt though, is making me feel very uncomfortable, it's almost as if my family is planning on us failing, and not really taking any wedding planning seriously...How do I handle this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2011): I should add that we've been engaged for a year. I'll be finished with school in another 6-10 years, I'm going for an M.D. There won't be much time in Med school to get married...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2011): It is sad that your family doesn't seem to understand that you have been an adult for nearly 5 years, and think of you as some kind of irresponsible child. It is even sadder that those who respond on this site seem to think that people in their 20's are children. I suppose these are the same entitled fools who protest against those who actually work and earn money.
The best thing you can do here, is love your fiance, and make your plans and go live them. Everyone will come around once you are married and everything is working. Don't worry about the haters. Live your life.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (15 December 2011):
 Well it is good that you have a long time to plan the wedding but I do have to ask what the rush is? Wouldn't you want to be done school as well? I mean it isn't for everyone and you can't put a time limit on life so if you feel ready then you have to follow your heart. As for how to handle this just keep on planning and talking about it. They will get the message when the invitation comes in the mail and it is official. I'm 21 and know people who are married with children at this age (not be accident). Make your own path in life and let others see it when it is completed no matter how much they may put you down when you are first walking it.
I wish you all the best.
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (14 December 2011):
 You're only 22 and a child in their eyes, and 2 years before marriage is not a long time in this day and age. I'm 22 and have been in a relationship for 3 years but I know that I am much too young to get married. I you want to spend you're lives together, what's the rush to get married before you finish school?
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