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writes: how do i handle my boyfriend.we have been dating 6 weeks and we really like each other.the only thing is that he seems to want to control the relationship.i think he is insecure.whenever i have talked about past relationships and boyfriends he always asks what they do for a living!he even asked me how much money i earned and if he was the best i ever had in bed.!i have been to his house but if i sometimes do call him then i get voice mail.he always calls me every day but i wonder if it is just to see what i am doing so he can get on with his own plans.we see each other about twice a week.he is sweet though and kind but he confuses me as he is moody..how do i handle someone like that? he is a cancer and does have some crab like traits!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2006): in all honesty, regardless of your actions, the relationship will just end anyway when you cheat on him for the 5th time and he finally catches you with indisputable proof (photos, recorded phone calls, etc.) to at last verify the creeping suspision he's been nursing for six months.Either that or you will grow old together and slowly sink into despair and desperation due to the increasingly obvious futile attempts to thwart the ever-growing caloussness to the world that grows like a thorn in your heart, all the while realizing with a growing existential horror that no one understands your inner self and that in the end you alone face that fear to end all fears that is Death.And in this growing terror that all people must eventually face, you will drift from faith to faith, trying to sate yourself on religion, mythology, numerology, astrology, what ever, each time becoming more and more faithless, until nihilism seems the only true belief.And in that emptiness on which your terrified gaze eventually falls, that eternal darkness that dwells within your soul like a blind subterranean cave-fish, you will realize that the truth doesn't matter, that life is a ***** and everyone knows it and you've gotta deal with it. And with a surge of renewal, you will raise a primal wail that turns into a battle cry, and say f*ck that darkness, f*ck it all, and f*ck my petty little problems.Either live with the sh*t or dump the guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2006): Usually when a person behaves moody and insecure this early into a relationship, it's a smart thing to discern his character and look at the reality of what may come, down the road. In my opinion, he sounds controlling, suspicious, afraid and very untrusting. What you are asking is an important question. for all women to be aware of. and that is: using one's head to discern character. You may be having an excellent preview of your future with this man which could be: chaos and hurt. Dating is selection process and it requires both people to work with other building trust and an emotional bond. You relationship with this man is in it's infancy, this is a crucial time for you to discriminate whether this particular young man would be the best person for atentions now and in the future.. You would not be wrong to have doubts, 2nd thoughts about him...some people can't tolerate a moody, brooding type of guy who is 'comparing' himself to your past relationships which by the way and you need to stop talking to him about this as it's really none of his business. It's just proving to making him edgier with you. Most people are on their absolute, best behaviours in the first 2-3 months of a relationship. If he's showing a 'confusing, darker' side to his personality, already, so if I were you, I'd be concerned and very cautious. Go slow and see where this leads in the forthcoming weeks. If it gets worse, consider 'bailing out'...you don't need the anxieties and stress. Sometimes when men confuse their girlfriends like this, this is not love nor respect. It's more about control.
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reader, ask stivy +, writes (27 July 2006):
 Hi, ok where do i start on this one lol,ok his moods... well thats a man thing we all go in our little moods i call them my quit moods lol.and for all the questions he keeps asking you about your past boyfrinds ...well thats because he may need a bit of self belive . us men like to think that we are the best. only you know who was the best one lol, plz tell him that it his him ,cos you wont here the end of it lol,thats all i can say realy hope it goes well for you.
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