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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I've been dating my boyfriend for a year now. He has met both my parents, but I have yet to meet his because they live in another country. I know he would like me to because we're getting serious, but it hasn't been possible so far.He has gone home to visit them for the holidays and I have a funny feeling he may just put one or both of them on the phone with little to no warning when he calls me from there. I'm a reserved person by nature, tend to avoid long phone conversations if possible, and so have NO IDEA what I would say to them if he does this. I feel like it would be a very awkward way to break the ice with them, and that I probably will not come across well at all. I've surmised from comments he has made and a rather strangely worded card his mother sent me once that they are already predisposed to dislike me. I really couldn't offer specific examples, it's just a weird vibe that I get. I know from my boyfriend that they ADORE his older brother's girlfriend, who is from the same country, by all accounts a perfect homemaker, and who moved to be close to their family. I think she and his brother literally live next door to his parents. Me, on the other hand - I'm a foreigner, make my own living in a traditionally unfeminine line of work, and for the time being have no intention whatsoever of dropping my career and moving to their hometown. My BF was working in the US for more than a year before I met him, but I get the vibe that his parents - his mother especially - think I'm trying to steal him from them or something. His visa is for three years but it's like they think he'd be home already if he hadn't met me. I really don't know what I could possibly say to win them over, especially given the "standard" they'll be comparing me to. Has anyone experienced anything similar? Parents, what would you want to hear from your child's partner?Your advice is greatly appreciated :) Reply to this Question
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