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male
age
30-35,
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writes:Hello, I've known this girl from college for a few years and she and I gradually became a little closer over time. She has a boyfriend for 4 years and I respect that and I did not want to pursue a relationship with her anyway. We were friendly and good classmates of each other, nothing more.The reason that I am writing, is that the end of college is near and me and my classmates won't be seeing much of each other anymore. On the last day of a mutual course she asked me to talk with her in private. During that moment she confessed to me she had a huge crush on me for about a year and that she wanted it off her chest. She also said that she chose this moment because she knew she won't be seeing me anymore and because she has her boyfriend.She hoped to see me again somewhere in the future and hoped that her feelings would have faded by then so we could get coffee together as 'old classmates'And that was the last I heard of her. She said goodbye and left the school hastily. I haven't seen or spoken her since the confession. It's been a week since then.Don't get me wrong, I do find her attractive and she is a sweet girl, but this swept me right off my feet and I'm flattered.I'm really annoyed that she would choose that sort of moment and the content of her message just makes me confused and it does make me think a lot. What am I to make of this? What am I to do with this? I want to track her down/text her and hope we could talk things through like adults. Perhaps I'm just curious.What is her reasoning and her way of thinking this way? Why confess to me but at the same time not wanting to 'pursue' anything (or am I wrong?)Thanks
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (22 February 2016):
 And just to ask a followup question, is it typical for people to leave school in Belgium in the middle of February? I mean, did she get her degree or qualification?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (22 February 2016):
Wow, that's kind of a selfish and dramatic thing she did. "Oh I have feelings for you" and then *whoosh* she's gone.
I think you are right to be annoyed.
I'd take this as a rather immature girl's way to try to create a memory.
In the end, just take it as a compliment from a girl whose boyfriend wouldn't be too happy she's that oblivious to his feelings.
With any luck, you'll meet someone who isn't quite as selfish.
Good luck with your studies!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 February 2016):
 I guess it was playing on her mind and she wanted closure. I think you should leave it at that. As you said she has a boyfriend so I think you should stay away.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 February 2016):
 She just wanted to let it of her chest. Maybe in the future if you meet again, you are both single, you can use her crush as a reason and basis to start a relationship. But you don't have to do anything besides feeling flattered. The point is you would have rather heard this confession than being ignorant about it.
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