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writes:I am so hurt by this. My ex girlfriend told me she doesn't have the feelings towards me as a girlfriend anymore. I loved her. I was there for her when she was going through a rough time with her mother. I didn't see her for six months. We dated for 5 months before everything went to hell. I feel so angry right now. I hate feeling like this. its not fair. I even lost my virginity to her and I am 32 yrs old. I feel like missed out meeting other women cause i told them i still had feelings for my ex girlfriend. This is so hard to except to me. She is moving out of her apt in a couple of weeks. It was a shock to me. grrr, I feel so down. I am not happy without her. She was my missing half puzzle until everything changed. She was so special to me. I feel like I wont be able find someone like her again. I am crying about it too. I don't know what else to do anymore. I feel like giving up. This is so hard to take in for me!
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (22 August 2012):
 I know exactly what you are going through and all I can say is that time is the great healer of all painful wounds. But there are no shortcuts to the process of feeling better. Your relationship was fairly short lived, considering you dated for 5 months, and then went 6 months without seeing each other. That can sometimes be the death of a relationship, since continued involvement is usually a large part of how a couple stay connected. But given that the relationship wasn't very long I'd say she probably never felt as strong about you as you did for her. Many times women fall for a guy who is good for them, but they may not necessarily be madly in love, or even wildly attracted to him so over time, their feelings wane. This is particularly painful and annoying to the person who felt like that person was their everything. Also people grow apart sometimes. Especially if they don't see each other often. Certain couples can survive like this, but most cannot. There's always a concern that one of you may meet someone else while you are apart and many times that is the real reason things go bad. She may be telling you she doesn't have feelings for you because she's actually developed feelings for someone else. It doesn't make it any less painful, but it is part of what we have all experienced. Keep praying for the right one. She will come along and the two of you will be amazing for each other.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (22 August 2012):
 Yes, being dumped does hurt a very great deal. No question about it.
I expect your ex-girlfriend appreciated your emotional support when she was having problems with her mother. It could not have been easy for her to come to the conclusion that there was no future for the two of you.
Much as it hurts, you really have no choice to accept that if she had continued in the relationship, no longer loving you, then both of you sooner or later would have been very frustrated and unhappy.
Right now, just let your feelings "sit" with you. Cry as much as you like. Don't try to deny your shock and disappointment. Although you do need to try to start coming to terms with reality: that even though she most likely did care for you, all that is now over.
I urge you to spend time with friends and family and to begin to pick up the threads of your life again by doing the things you enjoy: activities, interests, not to mention your job..........
Hope this helps, and again, I'm sorry for your loss.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (22 August 2012):
Yes, being dumped does hurt a very great deal. No question about it.
I expect your ex-girlfriend appreciated your emotional support when she was having problems with her mother. It could not have been easy for her to come to the conclusion that there was no future for the two of you.
Much as it hurts, you really have no choice to accept that if she had continued in the relationship, no longer loving you, then both of you sooner or later would have been very frustrated and unhappy.
Right now, just let your feelings "sit" with you. Cry as much as you like. Don't try to deny your shock and disappointment. Although you do need to try to start coming to terms with reality: that even though she most likely did care for you, all that is now over.
I urge you to spend time with friends and family and to begin to pick up the threads of your life again by doing the things you enjoy: activities, interests, not to mention your job..........
Hope this helps, and again, I'm sorry for your loss.
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