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writes:male comments please :) Im in a relationship with a guy we have been dating for 3 months and our anniversary is tomorrow, i am young, and people usually look down upon sexual activities at such a young age. any ways, when my boyfriend and i perform sexual practices, it isnt what i expect and i dont want to tell him he is doing anything wrong... becuase its not wrong its jsut different, however its a difficult situation because i dont wnat to force he to do anything that he dosnt want to do, maybe its my own selfishness to expect.. but im a girl and like everyone else i want to be pleased..any advie or comments are gladly appreciated!
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (19 October 2008):
yeah i have been there before with a guy who was lovely but rubbish in the bedroom, i just felt unsatisfied and really fustrated. maybe he has not had much experience and just needs to be guided into the right places and like i said before, you are the only one who can help him with that. maybe try and be abit verbal in bed, tell him when he is doing something nice that u like it and then tell him that u like it when he touches u in a certain spot and that he should try and do it in a particular way. that worked with me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question
i didnt think it was the age either, but some people say its because he is young too, but hes almost19 ...so i dont know. we havent had sex yet, im a little sared about sex, because well if he dosnt know what hes doing with foreplay then im not to sure if he knows whta he is doing with the whole deal. dont get me wrong love him to death.. but i just get so frustrated. and for the erotic, i feel so unsatisfied, when i do it myself it dosnt feel good either, when another friend and i got sexual towards eachother i didnt hav eto tell ihm where t ogo or how dto do it, he jsut knew, so thats a huge dilemma for me, i cant do it so it turns me on and neither can my boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionokay, thank you, it does make some sense to me, its just hard to tell someone who you care about that its jsut not rihgt,lol, if you know what i mean. No we are not having intercourse, mind you i would like to try it eventually, but jsut not knowing the right time to... any suggestions?
And, jsut another uickquestion, why do i feel so bad about what im doing, i love him, we have been good friends for quite some time, and i enjoy it, most of the time.. but i feel like a dirty girl for doing it, my mother would absolutely kill me if she knew anything about what we have been doing, i come from a very strict home, but sometimes i like to let loose
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionokay, thank you, it does make some sense to me, its just hard to tell someone who you care about that its jsut not rihgt,lol, if you know what i mean. No we are not having intercourse, mind you i would like to try it eventually, but jsut not knowing the right time to... any suggestions?
And, jsut another uickquestion, why do i feel so bad about what im doing, i love him, we have been good friends for quite some time, and i enjoy it, most of the time.. but i feel like a dirty girl for doing it, my mother would absolutely kill me if she knew anything about what we have been doing, i come from a very strict home, but sometimes i like to let loose
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (19 October 2008):
you know what honey it;s not the age..some guys are just a little unsure of how a woman works. they think because they like it a certain way, we must like it like that. for instance i was with a guy who just poked so much it hurt like hell, so in the end i said stop you're hurting me...which was wrong, as i made him cry. anyway i was young so was he...but no i have learnt that the best way to get a guy to know what you like is to show him, get him to place his hand on yours as you touch yourself, it;s erotic for him and you get to instruct him without having a negative come back. as you do it tell him how much you like to be touched in certain places and how you like to be touched. same for oral and penetrative sex, just use it as a dirty foreplay game or something. you would be surprised at how well it works
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