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26-29,
*ri_sunshine
writes:I hooked up with (not had sex with, just made out) a guy last weekend that I'd never spoken to before with mutual friends. We were both very attracted to each other, but haven't really spoken or texted since then. I would really like to talk to him/become friends/hook up again, but I'm nervous about texting him first. I've heard that he's definitely a bit of a player and doesn't want a relationship, but I just got out of one and am just looking for casual friends/friends with benefits. Should I text him? Wait until I see him again? Ask a mutual friend to hook us up?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (19 June 2013):
 I'm sorry but you are entirely too young for a FWB relationship.
FWB is hard for adults. I can't see a teen coping with the emotional stress of being intimate with a person and yet not caring. Usually for women, sex and emotions go hand in hand.
this means that even if you don't like the guy in a romantic way, by having sex with him the hormones that make you feel like you want to be romantic with him will flow no matter what you do. This will make you "fall in love" and want more than FWB... sadly for many men, this is not the case and they don't get those feelings.
Personally if you want to be FRIENDS with him, then treat him like any other girl or guy you only want to be friends with, the fact that you even asked the question means he already means more than that.
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reader, splash88 +, writes (19 June 2013):
Wait until you see him again, then drop some hints like making sure you guys are the last or first to leave. Then when you guys part for the night, don't hook up that night, but tell him to text you sometime.
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