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writes:im 21 and my boy is 29. we started talking in august and been together since then. hes amazing has everything a girl wants in a guy, succesful, smart, amazing body and face, caring, generous, its almsot so perfect i can almost guarantee his the "one". Im in school and he lives in the city im from, it really isnt an issue since he has no problem in flying me to see him or he will come to me. It has only been 3 weekends since we started talking that we havent seen each other. However this past week we got in a fight bc i wouldnt hear from him in almost a whole day, i know its stupid, but i was so used to hearing from him thoughout the day it kinda freaked me out. we finally talked and he said that yeah were very importnat to each other but we must have other things in our life to worry about and that i should focus on school right now (since im in finals) as he needs to focus on his company. he also said that we need to slow dow bc if we continue in the pace were going it wont end good. he talked about his old relationships and how they all ended really bad with alot of fighting bc they moved too fast and it was to hard to let go. he said that in order for the relationship be health, the man and the women both need to have a life outside of their relationship and make themselves miss each other.He said he hadnt given up on me and that he jsut wants us to not get hurt and take it slow so that its time what brings us closer not the "rush of the moment". i asked him if that means the has gonna try to meet someone new and he said he wasnt but that i should just focus on school bc its my priority and not him right now. I totally agree with him about taking things slow and i feel that if i really care i should be capable of giving him the space and time that he needs after all "if u love someone let him go". he texted me throughout the week about how im doing with my finals but no real conversations.it hasnt been hard to give him his time and not talk to him since i feel like he really is worth my time and sacrifices and as much as i miss him something tells me it will be fine. i been nice enough to show him that i still care but not too nice to suffocate him. However today he asked me when i was gong back home and told him in a week then STUPID me said i kinda really want to see u, and he didnt answer, i felt stupid bc i felt that by saying that i wasnt giving the space he needed to miss me so i jsut said "sorry i said that".. he never replied...im scared though im scared that when i see him its gonna be so awkward, im scared that when i go home his not gonan try to see me and i knwo thats going to hurt me. im scared that he will realized he doesnt really care about me. and mostly im scared im not gonna be strong eough to give him the space and time he needs. i just wanna hear opinionsthanks
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reader, apple89 +, writes (9 December 2010):
apple89 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know im tryign my hardest to be patient.. its hard specially when sometimes i start thinking and all i think is omg what if hes moving on!.. i kinda wnat to talk to him abotu my fears, but i feel like that will jsut push him away sence he already said he wasnt ... i just want to give him his time neddeed and learn to be strong
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reader, Puzzleduck  +, writes (8 December 2010):
Listen to what he is saying. He sounds like he is talking sense. If you really like him just be patient with him. There is no rush. I hope it all works out for you x
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