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writes: Ok, i don't know what to do! I'm 15, and never really had a boyfriend, but there's this guy that i really like! He's not very popular or good looking but i'm falling in love with the way he's so sweet and funny. A couple of my friends know about it, and they don't see why he wouldn't want to go out with me. Only thing is, i'm really shy, and don't know what to do about it! I don't want to ask him out directly, as it would be arkward if he said no. I'd love to gewt him to notice me in that way. But how???
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reader, Yos  +, writes (3 May 2006):
 Just remember that he's probably shy about talking to you too. Smiling at him and looking at him throughout the day is the best way you can show that you want to talk to him, and getting him to notice and think about you.
There's lots of things you can try. You can send him a secret note, then make sure you're looking at him when he gets it. He'll look at you and probably guess you sent it.
You can also become friendly with one of his friends, and then tell them. You might find it easier to talk to them than talk to him. If you don't want to do that, you could tell your friends to do it. People love to gossip, and he'll end up finding out soon enough if they're talking about it.
However, the very best thing you can do, if you are brave enough, is to go up to him and just be friendly. Don't worry about flirting or being sexy, just say 'hi' and talk about normal things, just be yourself. You'll get to know him that way, and over time you'll become more confortable with him and will be less shy taking it further if you want to.
Good luck! Don't worry about the popularity thing, you'll find that really doesn't matter at all in the end (one of the best things about being an adult is that people don't care about popularity, not like at school). In fact, it's a secret, but almost all the popular people are insecure and unhappy, which is why they spend to much time trying to be popular. It just makes them feel a little bit better.
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