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writes:I am in serious problems now.My boyfriend of five months and my sister is at war and I am left in the middle!Its like this: My family adores him, however,my boyfriend is a "say it like it is" type of person and my sister has similar personalities.I get along with both of them fine - but its just that the two are always fussing.I love my boyfriend dearly and I am not prepared to end my relationship. But I also love my sister and I cant disrespect my older sibling.Now my sister is getting other family members involved and trying to turn them against my boyfriend. She even slapped me the other night out of anger. I took it with a smile - i really respect her.How do I get the two to settle their differences without me having to choose? I try to get them to talk-both of them claim not to have anything to do with the other. Its depressing. Reply to this Question
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reader, Lovely38 +, writes (10 March 2009):
Lovely38 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks vamp-gal.It sure does help-any feedback will definately.
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reader, vamp-gal +, writes (9 March 2009):
 Hey,
Firstly, letting your sister get away with slapping you? Wow you're a good sister, lol.
Secondly, they may not get along, but you love your boyfriend and your sister, it may be hard, but you could ask the two of them to at least be civil towards each other when you're altogether as a family.
Your sister might warm up to him. Talk to your sister and ask her why she doesn't like your boyfriend. Sorry if this is offensive, you said you really respect your sister, but getting the rest of your family involved is a little immature, it's between her and your boyfriend this thing that's going on, theres no reason to get someone else involved.
Remember your sister is your family though, so don't side with your boyfriend on everything. Don't side with anyone, I know it's hard because you love them both, but if you stay out of it you can't get involved.
Talk to them both and if theres still no solution just see if they can be civil towards each other, because it's not right you being in the middle
Hope this helps.
Good Luck!!
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