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*ikey_s
writes:hello friends I am 15 i am not in a relationship uptil now,i just want someone to love me,noone loves me,I want someone to hug me when I am sad,wipe my tears when I cry,noone does,it....it just hurts very badly,soo my question is I study in a boys college,but luckily from the 9th standard there is a thing called socials in our college in this the girls college come over to the boys college for a dance night,will I get a girl here,I just don't even have the guts to talk to girl and ask her for dance,what should I talk or say what lines should i use,what should i do I am so desperately in need for I girl,thats not so that I am interested in some kinda sexual relationship,but I just want a girl by my side,pls Reply to this Question
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reader, Mikey_s +, writes (8 December 2010):
Mikey_s is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok you danced with a girl,but a very very short one,I asked her name and introduced myself,I found her on facebook,I sent her a message saying.....are you the girl which I had a dance withsorry I had to leave very soon so I am really really sorry,and then she sent me the following message.....hmmmmmm............yup i know youwere the 1 which i had a dance with..............last night.........i know you are l,le bit dumb( plzzzz do not take this seriously) but i can understand your feelings..........we are still good frienzzzz.... ;)does it means she is interested in me or she hates me,now I've sent her a message saying,will you like to go with me to the fete,its 24hrs no reply has came..please help me is she really interested in me or.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): I feel this way so often, except i'm a shy girl and i'm wishing and hoping and wanting a boy to ask me out!! So you should just choose a girl you like at your dance, and simply go up to her and say "would you dance with me?" chances are she'll say yes and be completely overjoyed and thrilled!
good luck :)
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reader, Mikey_s +, writes (3 December 2010):
Mikey_s is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you lila I appreciate u,and thanks for ur compliments they really mean a lot to me,really thnx not. much r there that really appreciate me so thnx.
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reader, Lela  +, writes (3 December 2010):
Wow, you sound like the most gentlest, patient boy I have Ever heard of. You sound like a catch. You need to be happy with your life first, and it sounds like you aren't. I know it's hard when it seems like everyone around you is in love, but it will come in time. And this is the cheesiest line ever but, ''Be yourself'' Your kind, compassionate self =)
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reader, Mikey_s +, writes (2 December 2010):
Mikey_s is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u guys,I really appreciate all your help,and its good to know that so many people out there to help me,ill keep up all the points of u guys in mind and see what happens thank u very much.
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reader, lacrymosa_652  +, writes (2 December 2010):
 It can be hard when everyone else seems to have someone, but you're not the only single person out there. Aunt Honesty is right, you need to learn how to be happy on your own first. There must be other good things in your life. Enjoy spending time with your friends, doing activities that you enjoy. Focus on school work. Find something you're good at, do well at school and your confidence will increase when you find yourself to be intelligent and good at something.
Tell yourself repeatedly that finding a girlfriend shouldn't be your Number 1 priority. I don't mean to sound patronising but you're young and have so much time to "find someone", and you should wait till you're older to be concerned about forming a relationship with a woman. If you wait for the right girl, she'll appreciate the fact that you haven't gone out with so many girls before her.
As for talking to girls at these social events, don't think about approaching them to ask them out or anything, just talk to them as a friend. If you feel nervous, approach the ones that seem shy like you so you don't feel so much out of your comfort zone. Say hello, introduce yourself and ask them what their name is. Ask her if she's having a good time at the dance, and ask her if she'd like to dance. If she says no, don't take it as a personal rejection, she may just not want to dance.
Be less concerned about getting a girlfriend and just make friends with girls, and see how things go from there.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 December 2010):
 Well you dont tell a girl straight away that you really like her because this will put her off, you need to build up a friendship with a girl first, and be a friend to her for a while, get to know each other and then you can ask her out or tell her you like her. If a girl has a boyfriend then dont go near her. We all get lonely at times and yes it can be hard to watch other couples and want that for yourself, but you are only young and there is plenty of time for you to find a girlfriend for now its wise to concentrate on making yourself happy at the moment.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (2 December 2010):
 YOu know its really understandable why you would want a girlfriend, everyone else has someone, so why can't you? Right?
How can you expect someone to love you, if you don't love yourself first? Don't put so much pressure on yourself to have a girlfriend. It's cool that you want to ask someone to the dance, but don't worry about it so much.
Just ask her. Ya, she might say no, but she might also say yes couldn't she? If you don't ask then you will never know. It took me a long time to learn that I don't have to have someone else with me to feel validated, you have the rest of your life to date girls, so be carefree.
If she does say no, then oh well. Her loss. Find someone else. Girls are usually just as nervous as a guy when it comes to being asked out and I'm sure she probably likes you as well as long as you aren't being clingy or needy or hovering in her bubble.
Calm yourself. Walk up to her. Say, "I like you. And I would really like to take you to the dance so I can get to know you better. Would you like to go to the dance with me?"
Its as simple as that. Be confident. Have some faith in yourself, trust me, you will break some hearts in your lifetime.
Good luck.
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reader, Mikey_s +, writes (2 December 2010):
Mikey_s is verified as being by the original poster of the questionand how would I tell the girl that I really like her,without making fun of myself.
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reader, Mikey_s +, writes (2 December 2010):
Mikey_s is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx for your valuable advise,but u know it kinda hurts when,u see everyone having girlfriends and u don't have someone who loves u,it hurts,I am a silent type of a guy,and if i asked a girl for a dance will not she think that I am a flirt or something and bad enough if she had his boyfriend come and bash me up.I just wont be able to take that kind of insult.I just cry when i see someone hugging or kissing.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (2 December 2010):
Well first of you need to concentrate on being happy on your own first, because if you dont you will come across as being clingy and needy, you need to enjoy yourself at the moment, hang out with friends, do hobbies that you like and make yourself happy. Thats the key to finding a girl is good self confidence and belief.
Once you have done this you will feel better about yourself and when a dance comes around all you need to do is casually ask a girl if she would like to dance with you, the worst she can do is say no and am sure there will be plenty of other girls there.
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