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writes:My boyfriend and I were discussing what would we do, for our first time having sex. We're both virgins so I'm a little nervous... How can I get rid of this nervous feeling?
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (28 January 2011):
 Unfortunately nervousness is just part of the territory with the first time. The best thing to do is to talk about it with him. Admit that you are nervous. I bet he is too. Take it slowly and you will be fine.
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reader, Loveloyalty  +, writes (28 January 2011):
I was nervous to my first time but truthfully There's No Need To Be Nervous , Lol I just lost my virginity and it was great. If you love him it will be perfect. If your still nervous tell him talk about it & when your about to have sex focus on something that he has that turns you on or something you love about him like his lips. Just Remmber Safe Sex is The Best way to go :) So Have Fun and Enjoy !!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2011): sorry, you can't get rid of that ;)
just let yourself know that hes as nervous as you are.
so you don't need to worry about the things that might be making you nervous like "will it hurt" or "will i impress him" because first of all, your first time, wont hurt as such, its like more of a press, (lol) you probably already know about this theres lots of info about first time worries somewhere, on this world wide web.
oh ye, and have fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2011): I don't think there could be anything that could make you get rid of that nervous feeling, I think the only thing you can do is prepare yourself for it.
The first couple of times for most girls are quite painful and uncomfortable, but it wont feel like that forever.
The first time I had sex (a couple of months ago), we tried and it wouldn't go in the first couple of times, we tried one final time in a different position and it did.
I would suggest that right before the first time you have sex, you should orgasm because even though you think you'd be relaxed, you most likely wont be and it will be even more painful.
Also lube will help it be less painful.
Good luck!
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reader, Birdman21 +, writes (28 January 2011):
Realize that you two care about each other and no matter how awry the experience goes you'll still love each other. The feeling going to be there, but trust me, he's feeling it six times worse than you are. You should mostly be worrying about the protection factor, he has to worry about all the macho lovemaking stuff and protection.
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