A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I dated this guy named Rj, before we started dating we were the best of friends. I knew once we got in a relationship, it would ruin everything. He would constantly ask me out, saying i was the perfect girl blahblahblahblah and he didn't wanna lose me. Rj probably said all that cause' i was always there for him when he was down, and played the good/caring friend, thats how i always been. After a while i was like f*** it, i'll be your girl. The first couple of months were great "like always" but then the jealously kicked in. Everywhere i went, every person i hung out with or even said hi to, he would get a attitude about it. When Rj called me and i would miss it, he would go crazy! it got to the point that he started breaking up with me for every little thing. Of course he apoligized later on, and i accepted it. Around Christmas i found out he was talking to another girl. I didn't trip out, cause' there's not point of making a scene if you knew it was gonna happen. I didn't tell him i knew...........After work i would call him and we would meet up, that was our normal routine. So i called Rj..... he answered saying, "hey baby, how was your day" i replied.. it was good etc. etc. he said, "baby i gotta go, im running down the street".. i was like wtf, okay? Then he hung up fast. I called back wondering why he was running down the street in the first place....he answered... then he hung up..i called back again and it sounded like he was hiding something, i kinda had a feeling on what it was. "he knew this was the day that he was going to get caught" I asked him what he was doing.. he just said nothing... and paused.. then i heard a girl in the background talking.. i was like who's that.. he said nothing.. i said.. are u serious Rj...... he hung up. He called back 5 minutes later and said in a crying voice, " im sorry i love her more, i cant be with you, im at her house right now" then hung up. Of course i was sad, who wouldn't be? i took him back a thousand times, i always been there for him...i didnt deserve this. Later on that night he called my phone, i ignore it a lot..but finally answered, and he said.. that he was wrong and im "the one" and a whole bunch of bull...and that i don't deserve being put through all this, being hurt, and she was the one who told him to say that he loved her more and that he left her.... the girl he was cheating on me with... We talked for hours that night.. our song came up on the radio "i can't live without you" he started crying... i never heard him cry before... i didn't know what to do. I thought to myself "maybe he deserves to cry, he put me through all this.... shit..should i care?" Well of course... me being a female... i can't stand to see or hear guys cry... its the saddest thing in the world, its my weakness... i started crying too. I asked him, "why"... why would you do that to me.. he tried to come up with an excuse, and he had nothing... he just cried.The next day he called up my phone and said "I'm in love with you, and only you"... of course... he lied... he went to her house that day and said the same thing to her. I was like w/e. In late January i changed my number, i was trying to forget about the past and move on to bigger and better things. Somehow he got it and called me up without notice, i answered not knowing who it was at 1a.m.!... i said hello, Rj said hi.. i said who is this, Rj said, its me... then i figured it out.... and i went to happpy to mad/sad in about 1 second... alllllllll over again. Ugh! we talked until it hit daylight. He said i seemed very happy and giggly like always! and that him and his girl broke up.... it was no suprise for me lol... he was known for breaking up a billion times during a relationship... I said, "oh that sucks" in a non caring voice... Rj said but this time it wasn't me... i was like what are you talking about... he said, i didn't break up with her, she broke up with me. I laughed.. i said, "are you serious" then he told me what happend... i gave him some advice. He took it, and he asked me... how can you talk to me still, after all that i put you through? I said, i told you Rj.. i was always gonna be here for you NO MATTER WHAT. He started saying..."its weird. I always use to break up with you, when me and you were together... and now the roles have switched.... im with her now, and she's breaking up with me constantly. i dont know what to do". I told him, do what u think is best and i said goodbye.. best of wishes.. then hung up. Of coursr they got back together... NOW.. his girlfriend is stalking me! she's always spying on me everywhere i go, i've caught her a few times. Even through the computer..?? and she calls me on private numbers late at night. I know its her, cause of her area code. She sends me emails... i dont know why she's so insecure, i told her i dont want nothing to do with Rj. I told her that we will never be together again..blahblahblah but she still spies on me... Even on stupid ass MYSPACE.. she checks mine 24/7 to see if i talk to him..?How do i get rid of her! its been 4 months! she's still spying. I swear.. she pays more attention to me than her own MAN. Its so annoying.. shes always trying to compete with me, when theres nothing to compete with! im better haha just kidding but the whole concept to the story was..... How do i get rid of the current crazy girlfriend.... anddddd how do i fill up the empty space in my heart... ever since him....i find it hard to like a man..or even begin to love again.
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