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*lassicclown
writes:Hi there. So I've got a relationship problem. My girlfriend is a straight A student. She gets A's for all her subjects and this really gets to me because I am a B and C student. While I know my marks are good,it still gets to me. I turn it into a type of competition and I try "beat" her. I know it's pathetic but I can't help it. We bag our own elective subjects,but we do a class together and it's so hard for me because I'm always worried about how I fair against her. For example, if I'm stuck on a maths sum and I really can't figure it out, I'll start saying to myself... She can do this. She knows how to work it out. She is smarter then me.Basically what I'm asking is how can I get over this "fear"Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, classicclown +, writes (24 July 2011):
classicclown is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear merry secret.
It's nice to hear a response like that because the only other response has been from myself. I an defintely going to take some of your advice and I think it could definitely help me. Thank you fo rthat.
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reader, classicclown +, writes (24 July 2011):
classicclown is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear anon
I do realize I an lucky, I don't take it for granted. Maybe you just need to find a way to communicate better to girls. I'm not sure.
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reader, classicclown +, writes (24 July 2011):
classicclown is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear moos mum.
Don't worry,I'm open to all ideas. Ive never really thought about it that way before. You've definitely given me something to think about.
Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2011): I think it's very normal to be competitive like this and its not pathetic at all. I think u need to stand in front of a mirror how she's simply smarter than u. Its a fact that u need to face and accept. Once u do that u'll feel better. Try not to compare yourself with ur gf. Try to think of how lucky u r and how there are other students who wish they were as smart as u. Write down in a paper all the other things ur good at. So like this, u can say: fine! She may better at school but im better at playin video games or playin guitar or anythin else. Hope i helped! Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2011): You have no idea how lucky you are. I'm a straight A student girls treat me like a damned pariah.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (19 July 2011):
 I don't want to come across as a male basher here but unfortunately this is a typical male trait. Competitiveness is bred into your DNA. I guess it goes right back to caveman days where you had to be the best or you starved. Keep in mind that everyone is brilliant at something. There will be something you can do easily and well that she will be hopeless at.
Hope this helps
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