How do I get over this teacher of mine?

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Question - (18 November 2008)

5 Answers - (Newest, 21 November 2008)

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I've just transfered to a new school, because my school closed down. I am still very upset about it, and there's not a day that goes by when I am dressing in my uniform thinking about what school I am going to, and how the uniform I'm wearing isn't MY uniform. Do you know what I mean? I'm still adjusting to the new environment. My old high school was all girls, so you see how it is different. Also, it is hard as it is my Senior Year. Well, In time I am sure I will be used to it.

A very special person and I had to go our seperate ways. This special person was my teacher, and I know what you're thinking. Here we go again! Another pathetic girl who can't find someone her own age!

Have you ever thought that maybe some of us girls have real feelings towards our teachers? It is possible. Most of the time it is infatuation, but for girls like me, I wouldn't say so.

I really do miss him. We were very close. He helped me through so much, and supported me when I tried to save the school from closing. Well, when my school closed, yes I couldn't save it. Stupid of me to think that I actually accomplish something like that. I regret not saving it 100%.

In my freshman year, we would always talk after class, about music, school, our personal lives. He was also the track coach at my school. Of course I joined, and found that I liked it. It relieved stress.

I found out so many things about him that no one else knows. And I feel proud that I am pretty much the only one. Well, on the downside, He got married in December of 2005. He married a woman from another country.

I was sad, but I was still glad to have him as a friend. And that's the way it has always been. We never went further than being close friends. Which I deeply regret, because there were those times when we would cross the line. He would say things that were considered inappropriate. I would say things that were considered inappropriate. So that was our relationship. And boy did I love it!

Well, after saying those things, we just pretended like it never happened. Or the looks we gave each other, we pretended like it never happened.

In my sophomore year, We grew A LOT closer with more of those looks we gave each other, and of course the inappropiate sayings. That year, I had an eating disorder, and he helped me through it. He was very comforting. He told me he'd always be there for me.

In my Junior year, we grew apart. Mostly because his wife finally moved here to America. And she got pregnant. So our conversations after class ended, and so did track. Then I chose to stay away from him, because I thought it was the best way to get over him. It didn't work. Not one bit. Well, we grew close again because I was always talking to him about saving the school and talked to him about my ideas.

Well, now I have no idea where he is. I decided not to keep in touch, because I wanted to get over him for real. It's still not working.

I am seeing his name everywhere, in books, on Tv, online, girls from my school mention his name and I'm sucked back in. I fall in love with him all over again. To make matters worse, there is a teacher at my school who looks like him! And I'm starting to like him!

It just makes me wonder. Is he thinking of me too?

Someone help me. Tell me how to get over this teacher of mine.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2008):

No Bugs, that was me.

Still haven't gotten over him. The other day he questioned my friend AGAIN about a night out I went on and if I had met any boys. She blew up in his face and shouted 'why dont you just ask her?!' Havent seen him since then, so I'd imagine that's going to be rather awkward :-\