A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Quick question:What do you do when you have a crush on one of your boyfriend's friends?Recently, I've been getting a lot of attention from this guy, I think about him a lot, and I'm always excited to see him. I find myself enjoying the attention, and I'm somewhat attracted to him.To be clear, I don't want a relationship with this guy - never have, and don't now. I don't even want to be attracted to him. He's just a good friend of mine and of my boyfriend's, and I want to keep it that way. I'm worried about the fact that I do feel attraction to him, though, and that he appears to reciprocate to a degree. My boyfriend is always around when we're together, and he's never said anything to me indicating jealousy, but I don't want to start anything.Simply walking away from this guy might not be an option, however, since he and my boyfriend are very close, and I see him several times a week as a matter of course (never alone together). He's also, as I mentioned, a very good friend of mine personally, so I don't want to spoil things, you know?I guess the underlying problem here is that my boyfriend and I have been together for about nine months now, and things are starting to get routine, and this other guy is a source of excitement. I wish that excitement could come from my boyfriend, though. How do I get over this silly crush and rekindle things with my own guy?
View related questions:
crush, jealous Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (22 September 2009):
You've found your own problem. Things with your boyfriend are routine, and his friend is showing you the attention you want from your boyfriend. Answer: Spice it up with your boyfriend. Do what it takes you rekindle it.
For God's sake, don't touch his friend though, even if he makes an approach for you (I don't think you will to be fair). Have fun. x
|
