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writes:I have asked before but it has been a while. Quick update: me and my girlfriend have been together for eight years and I have a crush on her brother. So as of now I have lots of sex dreams about him. I'm still trying to get over him. He used to show signs of slight interest but in the past year he hasn't. Even after knowing him for about 9 years, when it's just me and him talking, I have this feeling of awkwardness. I feel like I try to hide my feelings so strongly that I feel like I come off nervous. I just want it all to stop. I like the dreams but it doesn't make things any easier. He moved back in with us and I just want him to move so that I can fully get over him. He might move out soon but in the mean time how can I fully get over him? I would never leave my girlfriend for him but I always wondered what it would be like to kiss him and give oral. It's on my mind a lot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your responses. He moved out with a friend so hopefully these feelings will go away. I got a better handle on things but it's still a work in progress. He came over tonight and sat right next to me most of the night so it was challenging. I just hope it fully goes away soon because I'm stressed out enough as it is with other things.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 July 2014):
 You say you will never leave your girlfriend, so that is your answer. You are confident that she is more important than this crush. I agree it makes things worse that he is living with you so maybe you should hint to him to move out. This is a really sticky situation to be in and I do feel for you. But you need to ask yourself are you 100% happy in your relationship? Is your life really everything you expect and want it to be, because I cannot help wonder that if you where 100% happy with your partner that you wouldn't be fantasizing about other people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2014): Just ignore him. Concentrate of what is good in your life, and whatever you do not need or do not wish to have in your life, find a way to excuse this feeling.
Like burning something? or just simply face it, and perhaps you can write it down on some paper, you keep with you all the time and read it several times a day.
This helped me, mostly facing problems helps a lot with my problems.
I usually go as deep as finding out WHY i have this feeling. I do carefully look around, look in past, and wherever to find the source of my problem.
Find out where it began, work from there. Write it down, and think out of the box
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