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writes:Three years a go my husband and I lost our daughter to a life long illness. When she was dying (the last year of her life) he could not handle it so he spent a lot of time in the bars. I have recently found out that he was acting very much like a single man. Buying other women drinks and taking them for rides in his truck. I have asked him several times if he cheated he says no. He may have done somethings he should not have by hanging out with other women but he did not cheat. He also says when I have told him about what two women have told me that he dose not remember. One of these women was one of the women that nothing happen with. She does say that he did not act like a married man at the bar. the other women I heard about from a friend who says that he tryed to kiss her but she pushed him off and got out of his truck.How do I get over this? I am so angry at him! Should I believe him? How do I move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2008): Personally I have never experianced anything of this nature or indeed even been married, but it seems to me that although it was probably unintentional he was acting very selfishly during your daughters illness. You were hurting as well, just as much as him and by the sounds of things he was out seeking comfort in others.
I wouldn't say this is a reason to get rid of him but I do think you guys need some counselling together and alone to come to terms with what has happened.
I dont know the women who told you but I personally would find it VERY hard to tell someones wife what they have told you and weather or not you beleive them is entirely up to you.
Its possible that nothing happened but if the only reason that nothing happened is that he was rejected then I think you deserve a major apology
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reader, quarky  +, writes (5 October 2008):
 Hey there-sorry to her your story. It sounds like your husband is trying to come to terms with his grief by trying to shut it out and looking for some sort of solace. But you and I both probably know that he won't find what he's looking for in the places he's looking. I really think you guys should seek professional help-there are many places, some free helplines, that can help you. I hope things work out. xx
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