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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:About 2 years ago I started having sexual thoughts about a friend. Nothing ever happened, as we're both female, and I wasn't sure what i really felt about her. (up until this point I thought I was straight) The feelings were getting pretty strong, but I knew I would never do anything about it, so i went home for a while and started getting over her. (because we lived together this was hard!) I was doing pretty well, until we spent the day together she was really upset and I was a shoulder to cry on. We were lying in bed chatting, when she kissed me. My heart fluttered like never before and we fooled about for nearly a month...it was amazing, we couldnt get enough of each other. But we stopped as we both agreed it was kind of getting out of hand, and we should stop or our housemates might find out. I was happy to carry on, but I agreed that it was cause alot of gossiping.We never really spoke of it, until it came up when i was feeling like she was distancing herself from me. She said that it was a complete mistake and it should never have happened, she was in a really weird place in her life and she said i should put it to the back of my mind just as she had done.It's nearly 6 months later and I'm still not over her, i smile when she walks into a room, and I can never spend too much time with her, we never run out of things to say. we live together and are best friends, we do almost everything together. I know some people might say I should just spend less time wih her and get over her, but I honestly can't see my life without her. She's my best friend first, and I fancy her second. I need to get over her so I can get on with just enjoying her company like a normal friend. How the hell do i get over her????
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): I am in the same boat as you. We had nice candle light dinners together, we went out, we flirt and felt so con=mfortable with each other. One night we kissed and it was the best..amazing...Somehow we decided not to speak about it but to enjoy ourselves..I have feelings for her and she knows it. I made a mistake that ruined the relationship that was heading to something wonderful. I demanded that she needed to decide what I was in her life and if she wanted me as much as I wanted her..Now we are not firends and even though being friends to me came first wanting to be with her became more.. Im sorry about what I did and everyday I write her a letter which I just dont send but I put my feelings in to it..Like a therapy session.I see that every week that goes by I am not writing as much. I go out with other people and keep on seeing a male friend. Her memory is always with me but now is not as painful.Slowly life is changing and Im sure a new love will cross my path...I hope my experience may help you in some way..Good luck to you.
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