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writes:My friend tricked me into believing she wasn't seeing the guy I fancied. How do I get over this betrayal?Me and this girl were friends for a couple of years - I didn't know her that long - but long enough to be close friends. She knew I was keen on this guy (who also liked me a lot too) - but we hadn't really started becoming intimate just yet and were taking things slow.However, my friend, who also knew this guy and has similar tastes in men to me - started getting very friendly with this him too. I asked her if anything was going on and she played it down saying he wasn't her type etc etc. At first I believed her and just thought it was her natural friendly personality - but as time went on - things were happening that showed they were spending more and more time together.Finally, we fell out over it and as I couldn't trust her any longer (or him) and just then I also discovered she had been dating him for the last 6 months!!I feel such a fool and so angry that I didn't listen to my gut instinct about her. She was making a mug of me and I should've said something to her there and then.How do I get over this hurt and betrayal?! I seem to have lost everything!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you anon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2015): You have not lost every thing at all!On the contrary you have just gained all.You have learnt that you can trust your instinct and this will be very useful when split second decisions are needed so give yourself a pat on the back for this.You have learnt that your friend is not the type of oerson you need in your life.You have learned ghat the wird friend and a charming smile do not mean friendship.So congratulations you gave just gone up another level.You have learned that this guy was not the right one for you and believe me you havent had it too bad, some people learn that kesson in the back of a car in a lonely place.You have seen with your own eyes that all that glitters is not gold and now you need to learn to value your freedom in life choices that can keep you from scheming people.Oh you feel annoyed.You feel foolish and you feel betrayed.This is par for the course!But now you need to learn to say "sod that!" No its not a polite expression but you were not in a polite trap.Be glad that you had the opportunity to let them go and feel stronger in yourself because karma has a way of repaying you .You are in a club that has more members than the mile high club.Its the i-got - used - a-bit -club and its the stuff jokes and conversations and revelations are made of.Try reading the entire set of Maya Angelou , an american writer who got raped as a child and you will learn that perspective is a great thing!Plus the books are good and the storiez are an account of her progress through her life and very readable.We all get made fools of from time to time.Some of us even make fools of ourselves but you have found out about their shinanningans and you dont have to wait years to discover anything so now you can move forwards and be happy about being you.Those two are just dreary boring history in the rest if your life.They are not the authors of your future.They are nothing.
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