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writes:how do i get over someone who treated me like crap?my ex was jealous controlling and cheated but i still love him i even caught him with a girl and he denied me in my face....how do i wake up and see that he never treated me right? i was good to him and he wil never see that so how can i get over someone who just kept on hurting me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): Sweetie that other person is right. once a guy thinks you're weak. he will keep coming back for more. and get rid of you just as fast. i went through this before. and what you have to do is block all his contact and have a clean start and be strong. get rid of his number and emails. show you're serious. he wont mess with a women that is strong and wont put up with it. trust me he will go somewhere else for sex or to abuse. if he knows you really mean it. he will go somewhere else for it. because its about control and keeping you down and emotions. this kinda guy will not change anytime soon sweetie. it really is up to you, not him or anyone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): By holding your chin up and looking forward to a future full of love(not lust), hope(and not lies), trust(and not doubt), happiness(and not sadness), and knowing that you are a beautiful person that has so much to look forward to in the future. You have the chance to find and meet someone that was meant for you. There is someone out there for you. A man who will treat you with so much respect and dignity that no matter how many times you pinch yourself it's not a dream. I was once in your position. Wondering why he's treating me this way or what can I do to make him see that I love him and that I always will. But in the end, the cheating, the lies, him getting angry with me for asking why he's out with other women and sleeping with them, he broke up with me. But he was always breaking up with me and then coming back and then breaking up with me (after the women didn't show any interest in him) and then come back. It was a cycle - the mind games he played on me. I decided the next time he broke up with me I wouldn't go back to him. He was surprised considering I was more like a back up plan for him. Just in case it didn't pan out with the other women, he had me. But I finally figured it out. I grew up and realized that after all these years, he wasn't going to ask me to marry him. I wasn't anything to him but a reserver to him. Luckily, we didn't sleep with each other. For that, I'm thankful for. I grew up and started taking care of me. I thought all men were the same, but they aren't. I didn't realize that there are other men out there who would treat me so much more with love and kindness. There is someone out there for you. There is. You have to believe it. I met a man three years ago, and yes, it's a fairy tale ending. It's hard for me to believe that he loves me for me. I can be a tart now and then, but he's stayed true blue to me, no other women on the side, and his heart is always devoted to me. We're getting married this year. This can be the same for you too. It may not be now or next year, but it can be when you are ready to move on forward. I wish you all the very best. Look out for you. Love yourself. Think about you and how you can empower (not getting sarcastic or demeaning to others but loving and sweet) your own self to be the best person that you can be and let that loving light within you to shine forth. You are a good person and with that, you will have someone who loves you and respects you and is the best person for you. Believe in you!
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